There's this guy I like, a lot. For several years he and I have flirted with each other. However, the timing was never right. He was with someone and I was with someone. Then, last year, I broke up with my boyfriend, which he didn't know about, and he soon told me that he was ending his marriage, with his wife. I told him I was interested. At first, I thought he was interested. He even said he was. Then, pretty quickly, he began acting like he wasn't. He told me he didn't want to ruin our friendship. That he respected me. And didn't just want to have a fling with me. Which was cool. So, we stayed friends. The flirting slowed down. Now he's back to flirting big time with me all over again. Hinting around about things. I laugh and tell him to stop playing games. That he's full of BS. Yet, he continues. He also tells me; You never know. What should I make of this? Naturally, I'm confused and will approach anything regarding more than a friendship, with him, cautiously. What do you think ?
2006-12-04 12:49:56 · 8 answers · asked by Micky 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Btw, I have told him I would play with him (if you know what I mean) but he won't. So I'm at a loss here.
2006-12-04 12:50:47 · update #1
Chances are, he was hurt by the destruction of his marriage and didn't want to rush into anything. He is very wise to do so.
Confront him honestly (no joking or teasing -- just ask him), and see what he says.
2006-12-04 12:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He`s indesicive. He may still be trying to get over his wife. He was probablly really deeply in love with her and its going to be hard to move on from that. On one hand, he`s on the rebound and just wants to have a fling, but because he cares about you, he wants to make sure that you don`t get hurt and that you two can still be friends.
2006-12-04 13:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is interested, but doesn't want to lose you as a friend, so he wants to be sure. Once you become more than a friend, it is difficult, if not impossible, to go back to being "just" a friend.
2006-12-04 13:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by betty l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is probably afraid that he may not live up to your expectations. Sometimes the thrill is in the hunt, so while you were unavailable, he wasn't afraid to approach you, however, now it is time to put up, and he would rather shut up.
2006-12-04 12:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by hueylewis2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a loser who doesnt know what he wants from you,hes attracted toyou then hes not...
get rid of him and any thoughts you might have entertained in the past!
2006-12-04 12:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by carin1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see he is just flirting ....he is satisfying his needs without taking any serious emotional bondings which might give him pain...so here it is seemed like that.......but this is very generalised view ........for right judgement one has to know him personally..
2006-12-04 23:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can tell you what is going on, we can only guess.
2006-12-04 12:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time and it might turn into somthing!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-12-04 12:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by breannafae h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋