What age do you think is appropriate to get married? Is 19 or 20 too young? If you have been with the person like 4 or 5 years, do you think you are old enough to know you want to be with them forever?
2006-12-04 12:20:39 · 22 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would getting married young cause disaster?
2006-12-04 12:27:35 · update #1
Sadly, four or five year relationships can be considered longer than many marriages.
The age at which it is appropriate will vary from person to person. Some take longer to mature enough, some never do. Some may be ready at 16, others not until 34.
I've been in a relationship that lasted nearly four years, and for a while, we thought we'd get married. Alas, it didn't work out. Sometimes you just don't really know what you think you know.
It really takes the willingness to commit, determination to make it work, and ability to devote yourself to something that you really care about. If you feel you have it, then you might just be ready.
2006-12-04 12:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no set good age and the ideas of good age for society change often. If you are 18 you are legal to get married. However, very few 18 year olds truly know their minds. Most are still very immature. (emotionally and mentally)
That is why people tell the young adults to wait. With living life as a single person you experience life and learn from the trials it brings. I was ready at 22 to get married. I knew I was ready, I can't say how I knew but I just did. I felt I had lived and learned enough on my own and that I couldn't learn more alone.
Sometimes getting married has nothing to do with the other person. First and foremost you must be complete and fulfilled by yourself, then you can add someone else to the mix.
2006-12-04 20:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not always how old should you be. more like where are you in life, accomplishments, goals and dreams etc. Like have you finished college, started working and calm and mature enough to want to be with that "one" special person.
Don't jump too soon, you'll look back more than forward if you don't give it time. 19 and 20 is pretty young, but if you are mature and BOTH of you are assuredly ready, you should be fine. It's just that there is so much you can get in to as you grow. sometimes testing the worldly waters will let you know where you need to or want to be. I don't mean go out and have sex with everyone, I mean opportunites in life are out there and if you are married you always have to keep your spouse in mind.
go to marriage counseling first and be sure that that cute guy on the defensive line from high school isn't still on your "hit wish list" or that hunky neighbor from around the way doesn't make you tingle down there when you see him at the local bowling alley. Stuff like that.
2006-12-04 20:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Skypride 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why get married.
If you are happy, don't ruin it with a title. Richard Pryor said it best.."Instead of marriage, find the women you hate most in life and buy them a house."
I'm not making fun of the question, but the age does not matter. Even loving the person isn't enough... Only get married if that other person gets and understand you better than any one else. That will make the best marrage. Trust me even if you get married at 30, you can still be foolish and marry the wrong person. I know. It is my life.
2006-12-04 22:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say 28. I think a 19 or 20 year old still has a lot of exploring to do. At that age you may think you know what you want in life, but your opinion will likely change. If nothing else, wait until after college. Your ideals may change and you may find that your goals are very different from your partner.
2006-12-04 21:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by myteemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 25 to 30. and that comes from being married at 15 and to my second husband at 28. People just don't understand that peoples mind and brains don't fully developed until their early 20's. Sure some people like to think that they are different and their relationship is special and so on but, that is not the norm. I tell you this from experience and psychology class in collage.
2006-12-04 20:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the person.........more than age...25 years old approximately though.....when you know that you know that you know what you want to do in life...and find a mate that fits your goals.....and know that you know that you know he is right for you....helps to have your parents, friend's and family's blessing.....that's always a good sign....most importantly your parents....but it's your decision ultimately....but if there are red flags every where....heed them no matter how tough it is to walk away...!!!!!! that's a sign your ready to get married and mature enough right there!!!!....to admit it's not quite right....and wait for Mr. Right to come along instead !!!!! I don't think 19 or 20 is old enough to have experienced enough likes and dislikes to know what you want...but maybe you have , and you know he's right....Ask yourself what you have been through in those 4-5 years......teenage stuff...or adult issues....I'd wait...but, good luck anyway no matter what you decide........have you seen him at his worst......and how'd that go.....nothing gets better AFTER marriage...remember.What are your future plans and goals ...do they coincide........kids....both spouses working....religion......hobbies.....common interests......financial maturity...both have wise spending habits....etc...It all makes a difference in compatibility.....also.....Commitment beliefs the same..once married...always willing to stay married through THICK AND THIN ?????? It is work along with fun .....not all easy going at times....think it through...if he's okay with that ...this is a good sign to you too that he's mature enough...Just a good feeling in your heart won't do....and you may think "you know it in your heart " that this is the time but have you given your heart a chance yet toever be broken and realize infatuation from true love......true love is also a decision to commit for the rest of your life............."AS LONG AS YOU'RE 18..WHO CARES IS A VERY IRRESPOSIBLE WAY OF LOOKING AT SUCH A PERMANENT THING THAT MARRIAGE REALLY WAS MEANT TO BE....BY THE WAY!!!!
"experienced in Milford, Ohio"
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
2006-12-04 20:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by THE BEST 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fine to get married, follow your heart. I am 22 have been with my husband for 5 years and been married since April 06, We are happy and were going to be together forever. and since we have been married things have gotten even better so don't let no one get you down about it follow your heart, live you life, go for it as long as you 2 are happy and you really love each other go for it, and remember marriage is a serous thing your joining to family's together, and your making a vowel to god ,and you don't want to break that vowel to god, and if you do your giving god the right to take your life. the pastor at the Church told me that he is the one that married us. He was // is Baptist.
2006-12-04 20:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by tonyad143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my own personal experience i got married two weeks after i turned 21. we had been together since we were 17 the marriage lasted 2and a half years and it only lasted that long because i tried everything to make it work. he completely changed after we got married. i'm not saying it can't work i just recommend living on your own before living together going out and enjoying yourselves. be young and enjoy it. (and i'm not saying split up just have time with your friends and let him have fun with his) if not then you may resent each other for not being able to enjoy your younger years. you have your whole life to be together so waiting another couple years won't hurt anything.
2006-12-04 20:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My answer wait till get married until you can drink at your own wedding, when that comes have a great time. I am planning on marrying my boyfriend when i am 21 and i met him when i was 16, it can work, we are talking details now. Although we didnt start getting to serious until i was around 18-19.
2006-12-04 20:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋