How do I become more outgoing?

Question

Please don't just say "talk more". That's like telling someone who's deathly afraid of water to jump into the deep end of a pool.

Answer 1

Consider smiling more and practicing eye contact with people. Make yourself appear friendly at least. People will approach you more often. Also, get involved in activities both private and community. If you aren't already, start an exercise routine. Working out brings out the extrovert in a lot of people cause your body gets in shape and you begin to feel empowered. Read more so that you have great contributions to conversations when the time is right. Pursue favorite hobbies...this will also help you to relate to others. As for community type activities, join school groups (if in school still) or go join Big Brothers Big Sisters. That's a lot to ask, I know. I'm shy at heart too. But it's amazing what overcoming adversity can do for your confidence. Facing a fear is the best way to rid yourself of it or at least reduce it. If all else fails, keep outgoing friends around to open the door for more social interactions. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Try new things. I have a friend who is so shy she ended up leaving school and having a break down becasue she didnt want to leave the house. She was so scared that people where judging her all the time etc. I told her she should do some charity work......it helped. She new that she had to do something, and that helped becasue she was helping people that were worse off then her. She also started taking medication.

My suggestion would be to try new things........new sports, charity, go and have a singing lesson (even if you cant sing), do something wild and out there that you have never done before.

You shouldnt be changing yourslef for anyone other than you. If you are doing this for a boy (or girl), then dont!!!! Youa re perfect the way you are and you should never change yourself for anyone.

Answer 3

Find a couple places that you can be part of a team with a goal. In our area that might include the yearbook committee, a community group such as rotary club, boys and girls club. Perhaps volunteering at a local shelter or community action house where you can help another person in need maybe as simply as sorting food. You'll find that you learn so much from others as they serve as well. You'll also learn alot about yourself.
Give 5 sincere compliments to 5 different people with a smile on your face today. Do 5 acts of kindness to 5 different people. today. The feedback you will receive will open up many doors or oppotunity to having your personality shine thru.

Answer 4

I would try and talk to strangers. Be it on bus stops or ques.. start of really simple like oh wot time is the bus, or make a commnet about thier clothing..nice one lol.

Make urself do something u dont normally do everyday. U have to learn noone really cares wot u look like or say or how u act.

Get up and do karoake, at the end of hte day good singers bore people, they want u to be bad.

Waer something that makes u feel stupid and go outside. Ur soon start to enjoy the wrong kind of attentions and desire it more

Answer 5

If you find out let me know, I'm only outgoing when I've been drinking.
Really, try to sit and socialize more with friends, call friends more often, go to parties with friends and tell yourself your gonna talk to one stranger a day. Try going to the mall and make yourself talk to one person, about nothing. Clothes, shoes, etc.

Answer 6

Jack Daniels!

Answer 7

Wave to people, say good morning, comment on interesting books one might be reading or jewellry one wears. You don't need to be saavy, small things build up. It starts slow. Learn to love yourself and what you do. Learn to not care about the opinion of others, as they don't matter.

Answer 8

Have confidence in yourself. Be interested in yourself. If you're not, no one else will be. And sometimes you do just have to "jump in". Join a conversation...make it a point to say one thing. Just one thing...even if you think it's stupid...then next time say two things...etc...it will eventually come naturally.

Answer 9

.Be friendly,smile and make yourself an approchable person to others and also talk to other people. Also be confident, everyone likes people with confidence in themselves. You could also try joining a group or club in school or in your community, that way you can meet people whom you have things in common with.

Answer 10

It comes with time trust me! I use to be quite shy and now just the opposite. But I chose when and when not to be.

Try self-help books, thats what I am into.