i don't use vibrators. i tried it once and it didn't do anything for me.
but for some reason my boyfriend doesn't seem to understand this, and keeps pressuring me into getting one!
i really don't want one, and him pushing me so much is really making me feel uncomfortable!
its also making me feel like i'm not good enough for him because i don't use them.
how can i make him realise once and for all?
2006-12-04 12:14:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You'd think you could just say no and drop it. You could try the old 'I'll get one if you get something', and pick something he would never want to get. What it is depends on the guy, but you should be able to find something. If you have too, use something like shave his head(top or bottom one), or something like that.
2006-12-04 12:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just explain to him that he is making you feel uncomfortable and that you dont want want to use them and thats final. If he keeps pressuring you than maybe he has some unresolved issues that he needs to figure out on his own. If he really cares for you than he should stop and if not than I would say bye bye.
2006-12-04 16:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by beaner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not showing you a lot of respect not taking ure answer of no and keep asking. Maybe he doesnt deserve to be with you til he works out not to be so selfish!!
2006-12-08 06:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by cas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For whatever his reason is ('a simple turn on to watch you using one'!), if you don't want one, then stuck with your choice.
It's important that he hears what you are saying, but if he does not hear, then you will best likely have to make a decision about your future with him. If he is not listening to you about this, what else is he not listening to about?
Sash.
2006-12-04 12:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by sashtou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be like i dont want to use it cuz it makes me feel like im cheating on u and ask him "what u dont think ur doing a good job thats why u want something battery operated and not u ....or u can get one but just dont use it just lie to him and tell him that u use it often and he will eventually hate the damn thing and want u to get rid of it ..........act as if the thing is better than him and he will get bugged and not want u to use it anymore
2006-12-04 12:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all ask him if you do get one will he allow you to use it on him and then ask him why he wants one in the first place and then tell him that you dont feel comfortable with a) him pressuring you into getting one and b) the feel of them in the first place. you are in control of this situation as he wants you to use it on yourself. try denying him what he wants (sex) if he will not stop mithering you for this and see how far he is willing to push you then.
2006-12-04 12:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he needs to open his ears instead of his mouth.
if you dont want to try it, just say so and if he cant understand where you are coming from, then i would say that you dont have much of a relationship and the best thing to do would be to end it now.
2006-12-04 12:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say yes, go and buy the biggest one you can. Tell him to get on his hands and knees and let him feel what its like. He might not ask again, but then again he might!!!
2006-12-08 00:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,i dont think you should have to make him realise i think he should respect how you feel and say no more about it.its your body amd what you do with it is up to you dont feel uncomftable he should feel that for pressuring you.
good luck.
2006-12-04 14:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by carol g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your not comfortable with it babe.....dont do it! One day you might change your mind. Your boyfriend should respect your wishes.if he thinks anything of you he will do
2006-12-04 12:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by itsjustme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋