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2006-12-04 12:10:29 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

It's hilarious how most of you judged me. I'm not even married & never had a mistress, or 2.

2006-12-04 12:27:19 · update #1

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As a wife whose ex-husband cheated, I can tell you that there's no difference between 1 mistress and a hundred! The fundamental trust is broken with the first infidelity, and NOTHING can change that, even the number of others involved, as the basic honesty involved in any deep relationship is damaged, sometimes beyond repair, with any other outside relationship with another person. I suggest that a deep look is taken, by anyone who feels the need to stray, at the permanence of any meaningful relationship with the partner that they feel tempted to stray from. An urge to indulge in other sexual experiences is understandable, we are all human after all, but acting on this impulse makes me feel that maybe something is lacking that maybe resolved by either talking with their partner, or by splitting from them to save them from further hurt.

2006-12-04 12:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah W 2 · 1 0

See? That is why I can't find one woman for me? The world is full of people that are hogging two or more!

Back in the old days, having a mistress was even considered a status symbol. Not only could you afford the house, the country home, the 5 children, their education, the parties, the club, the holiday by the seaside, the maids and staff, the carriages, the wife and her expensive clothing, but you had to have a mistress too! So two mistresses was probably showing off then too.

Nowadays, it is still morally wrong to have a mistress; two or more is more wrong still. You need to sit back and analyse what you are after here, because other wise you might lose all of it.

What DO you want?

2006-12-04 12:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by NotsoaNonymous 4 · 0 0

It's not more morally wrong. It's riskier -- you increase your chance of getting busted exponentially, with each new mistress you take on.

But if all of them are open minded, and you have a chance of swinging some sort of menage-a-howevermanyyoucan, then it ceases to be morally wrong and becomes simply awesome!

But three mistresses? Then you're just trash. Unless they're in different cities, or you're only doing it out of sympathy. Then you're OK again, and I'll buy you a drink.

Actually, most even numbers are OK, but odd numbers of mistresses are totally reprehensible. Prime numbers are hot.

2006-12-04 18:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by roboseyo 3 · 1 0

Its not a question of how many but its the act of having a mistress that is morally wrong. I don't know why it gets so hard for men especially. its simple you want to have lots of women at the same time,then don't get married. if you are already married and don't like your wife anymore, then divorce and be a free man.

2006-12-05 02:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by oceantwins 2 · 0 0

I beleive a good person could get themselves into a situation where they were cheating on their spouse with one person by just not thinking, or maybe mitigating circumstances - they got married too young, rushed into it, didn't really know eachother, they aren't that close and probably getting divorced soon, it's a sad situation but not necessarily saying that the participants are "bad", just human. And he could possibly have strong feelings for the other woman. But if the guy's screwing around with two women, it makes him seem more like a user/pig/coward, and less like he could possibly have real feelings for these other women. Still, honesty is the best policy, and I definitely don't mean to advocate adultery or anything, I'm just saying, love is a messy thing, and sometimes you fall for someone you completely don't mean to fall for, even if you're married to someone else. People are human, to be human is to err.

2006-12-04 20:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Slightly Noxious 1 · 1 0

Having any is morally wrong in my book, but yeah i guess two is worse than one.
Will never understand how someone can have more than one partner at a time.
I may be old fashioned in my opinion but i truely believe that when you have found your true love then you have absolutely no need to search elsewhere.
If you need more than one at a time at least be honest and tell them all that you are not just with them. Why lie and be deceitful?
You only get caught in the end lol

2006-12-04 21:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by sonia h 2 · 1 0

dishonesty does not become you. And to think that you are funny is just pure sad. You obviously have nothing better to do than take a high moral tonefor telling a tissue of lies....sorry the two don't add up

2006-12-04 20:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0 1

YOU are joking RIGHT !!!! If you are married it is morally wrong to have any !! You are a JERK !!!!! Grow up. Better still do your wife a big favour and leave !! Let her get herself a decent husband. If this was meant as a joke, YOU are not very funny at all, you are sick !!!!

2006-12-04 12:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1 1

if you are married you are wrong!!! CHEATING is bad!! it brakes peoples hearts and it makes them not trust anyone and it will always have an effect on their relationships even after you. Stop doing that, really think about other people beside your self and with your head not your Dick*....

2006-12-04 12:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by tonyad143 2 · 1 0

Ask your wife if her 2 boyfriends are getting in the way of her marriage! You should have your answer!

2006-12-04 12:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0 0

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