My sons girlfriend is pregnant, she is 17 and 1/2, her mother has talked her into an abortion, I am totally against it but my son is confused and he is going along with her mother, can I as the sons mother stop this abortion?
2006-12-04 11:40:36 · 18 answers · asked by otties_girl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
So, without saying what everyone else said...I would like to say that it's not over until it's over. If you are adamant about it because maybe you want to raise the child like my mom did with me [...my mom let my grandparents raise me....except that she wanted to be my parent every other year...(please don't let that happen to this child)], then you need to voice yourself.
I had a friend almost 2 years ago that got an abortion. I told her she and I would raise the baby, that she didn't need the father. Well, I went away on a trip to see my mom and while I was gone, the baby's father had his mom drive up to her apt and made it too easy to get an abortion. She pulled out the credit card and the comfortable ride and took her to get the abortion. The night before she did it, she called me and told me and I kept calling her all night saying you don't have to do this! My mom was even saying that she'd send her diapers each month, etc, but nothing worked and she aborted the child because it was an easy decision. If I would have been there...would have been easy? Heck no! I would have been right there.
But I do want to say, please don't leave 2 ignorant kids to raise this child and risk another child being born into a hard life with potential abuse. From one kid that wasn't aborted, but sometimes I think I should have been b/c my mother was irresponsible and let me be abused by a boyfriend. It sucks and I wouldn't wish it upon another innocent child, because we grow up and we have to live with our parent's and grandparent's decisions.
2006-12-04 11:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The decision is the girlfriends .. There is nothing at all you can do to force her to have the baby against her wishes... There is also no way her mother can legally force her to have an abortion against her wishes..
It is her right to choose whether or not she will carry on a pregnancy no one elses..
You can file court documents asking for an injunction but you will lose as many before you have...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roe_v._Wade
As much as you and her mother try to convince her one way or the other the choice is ultimately hers and hers alone...
Yes I am Pro-Choice meaning I defend a womans right to choose...
2006-12-04 12:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, at any age, it is her choice alone to have an abortion. It's nice that you would take responsibility for this child if she had it. You would right? Because surely you don't want her to have a child against her will that she can't care for. But, there will be other grandchildren. Hopefully your son will be more careful in the future and you will have grandbabies when everyone is ready.
2006-12-04 11:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by redzodd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could sit down with her and talk to her about everything you are concerned with. I think it is ultimately the pregnant woman's decision; but talk with the family, in person, and try to convince them of the blessing they have. If it doesn;t work at least you did try and just try to accept the desicion. I hope they do make the desicion to not abort. Good Luck!
2006-12-04 12:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by RearFace@18mo. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know if you can stop the abortion, unfortunately it is pretty much up to the mother of the child...but maybe try talking to the girl (if you haven't already)...if you are willing, you can adopt the child so she won't have to deal with it...it's a sad situation, I wish you the best of luck...you sound like you'd make a wonderful Grandma!!!
2006-12-04 11:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Renee B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Noone can legally stop an abortion except the pregnant mother not even the expectant father. Even in states that require parental notification, they dont require parental consent. Its sad but the law says it her decision.
2006-12-04 11:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Roe vs. Wade...it's her decision, not her Mother's, not your son's, and not your's. Make peace with it, and let it be. Do you see your son as a competant parent ? He's what 18 ?? What about her ? Does she seem like the mothering type ? Probably not, huh ?? It may not seem right to you, but, you aren't the one that gets to make the decision.
2006-12-04 11:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Holly B 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you could have a talk with her let her know how you feel
maybe you could ask her not to abort the baby if you offer to take care of the baby after it is born
2006-12-04 11:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by blackhairedbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant stop the abortion. its up to the girl. not even the parents can tell the girl what to do. legally anyways. you can plead with her though.
2006-12-04 11:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by hatin_u_always 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that grandparents have the right to intervene in an abortion.
2006-12-04 11:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋