How can I believe in my husband again?

Question

He lied to me so many times and now he's telling me he's a man seeking God and doing the write things... but the past is always making my mind...

Answer 1

I know it"s hard , But at some point and time they do grow up. And if he's with god then he may have changed for the best. It's nothing wrong with forgiving, but remember if you forgive him you cant keep throwing things back up. We all want god to forgive us for what we do wrong in life and in order for him to do so we must learn to forgive too. Prayer is the key to every problem big or small. God bless you and your husband.

Answer 2

You can believe but it will take some work on your part. First things first, if he is seeking God then I think you need to support him and come sunday, help him find God. Listen, redemption comes in many forms and many people think that when you turn to the Lord that somehow there is no credibility. I think that a conscience decision to change is the only way you can make a change. Whether he does counseling, church, or both, never over look someone who is sincerely going to try to make an effort. I just know from personal experience that when a choise is sincerely made, change can happen.

Now the past can be a hard thing to overcome especially when deception is involved. But the past is really your insecurity and is something that you have to come to grips with. The question is can you trust that your husband is telling the truth?? I can't answer this but in time you will. Can you forgive him for the past, that is what you have control over. Forgive him even if you find that the lies continue. It will help if you have to move on from that point.

Good luck

Answer 3

I'm sorry that you're hurting, and that your husband has lied to you in the past. past hurts are a hard thing to overcome. it takes time, and the rebuilding of the trust that was lost. I sincerely hope that he's telling you the truth now. if your husband is truly seeking God, then it will show. he will do everything that he possibly can to rebuild the trust between you two that he destroyed. and he won't expect you to just act like it never happened. he will give you time to heal, and you should be able to see the changes in him. I understand that your husband has hurt you deeply in the past, but with God's help, you can repair what's been done. and you can begin to believe him again when you see the changes in his life. pray with your husband, and the two of you pray for one another. with lots of understanding, lots of love, lots of forgiveness, lots of hope and trust, and most importantly, putting everything in God's hands, you can begin to trust and believe your husband again. it will take time, but it will happen if your husband truly is seeking the will of God in his life.
I wish you the very best, and I will keep you both in my prayers.

Answer 4

If you still love him do whatever it takes to get over your feelings. Most of the help will depend on his word and how much you see he has changed and if he makes a few mistakes you have to not jump on him with the stuff from the past. After you have done all you can do and you still can't get over the past, the best thing to do is to move on. I do believe people can change, but sometime the change can be non effective because of so much damage the past holds.

Answer 5

Since you seemingly decided to remain in the marriage it is required of you to forgive, and try to forget. I speak from experience, if you stay in a marriage, and don't forgive what offended you your wasting your time, and his. You don't remain in a marriage to keep bringing up the mistakes he made, or remain unforgiving to keep an imaginary leverage over him, forgive and move on with your marriage.

I would ask God to forgive my ( your) unforgiving ways, and ask God to help you in your marriage. Your husband is making an effort, now it's your turn. Men can be babies, and you not allowing him to move from the mistakes he made will ultimately provoke him to make the same mistakes again. Forgive and forget.

Where would you be if God never forgave you? When you don't forgive your being carnal, when you forgive your being God like.

Answer 6

Once the trust is broken it takes a very very long time to regain. It takes a second to break and years to repair and it may never be where it was before. I would suggest couples counseling and you may even benefit from going to counseling on your own. Your insurance may even cover some or all of it =) Good Luck

Answer 7

Its your choice Hun, only you can make that decision. If you love him with all your heart and can't forget the lies, try going to counseling together. I was in the same situation years ago, I loved him so much so I asked him to go to counseling with me. I knew I'd never forget, but I knew I could find it in my heart to forgive. Unfortunately for me he never stopped. Do I stay or do I go?? Well I had no choice, I had 3 small son's and had to walk away. In the long run it was his loss. After all theses years we stayed friends not only for our sons but also because we've become older and wiser.

Answer 8

If he lied to you many times - you shouldn't believe him again. If you feel he has redeeming qualities in him, then look past the lies, and accept them as a part of who he is.

Answer 9

I feel you both should seek out counseling, if that does not work, move on past him. There are good men available. You do not have to stay with him.

Answer 10

Wow, that same exact thing happened to me. I'm just cautiously optimistic. Don't just immediately trust him again. Tell him what it is going to take for you to feel alright and if he is commited to changing and making the relationship work, he should be able to work towards rebuilding trust. Watch him for as long as you feel like you need to and either you will see he has changed or that he hasn't.