I am trying to connect with the one but it ends before it has a chance to start. I feel pretty sad about it. I get pretty depressed about it because I invest myself heavily. I believe in love, romance and the whole idea of relationship. Don't lecture me or tell me that I should stop looking.
2006-12-04 11:28:03 · 8 answers · asked by JPR D 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have met someone that I like. It is very new. We can't even consider it dating yet since we have seen each other only once. We have talked a few times and he is really sweet. Should I stop seeing other people and only concentrate on this new guy? Also, should I wait to see what happens? I am really not good at this!
2006-12-06 11:51:45 · update #1
First, you gotta stop spamming, both online and IRL.
Second, you gotta pay attention to the people you try to date, what they like to do, what they admire about themselves.
Last and most hard, try to make a sentence without "I" or "me" in it.
2006-12-04 11:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's the problem. Your trying too hard. Relax. Don't push yourself on someone. Nobody wants to date clingy people. It's sickening. Try finding common ground, & similar interests. Start there. Don't put an idea in your head that a person has to respond to you a certain way or that you want to give yourself up to someone. So " investing yourself heavily " isn't all that good in the begining. Wait until you BOTH can connect on a serious level before making it exclusive or romantic.
2006-12-04 11:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ida 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. But in MY case I attract unstable headcases. I think you might becoming across as being desperate. My ex was doing that. Of course you should NOT stop. You won't find your soulmate if you stop. When you find the right one, the one that's meant to be with you, they WILL stay in your life. And you won't have to change for them. The fact that you DO believe in love is a good thing. There are too many out there that are players, losers and just looking for an affair. I'm sorry to say, these are the people that are great actors and you won't be able to weed them out, because they are so damn convincing. Once they are bored with you or find someone else who catches their eye, they are gone and to hell with your feelings. And we all meet them. Good luck in your search!
2006-12-04 13:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One never 'starts' a relationship. You start projects, you start your homework, you start dinner, but not human interactions with actual people that you care about.
Every relationship you have --- be it with a lover, your mother or your pet dog has a different ebb and flow to it. I suspect that your romantic relationship is in the toilet because you said it yourself - "I invest heavily" You lose your individual self and this is a turn-off to the people you are trying to attract.
Stop trying to control the pace of intimacy. It's like picking apples before they are ripe. That's your problem - slow down and don't give too much of yourself too soon!
2006-12-04 13:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Story of my life! I know exactly how you feel,just don't lose your empathy or compassion and become embittered.Hang in there.
2006-12-04 11:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don`t if they want to they will drop it and find the one that is looking at you that you don`t see that one will give you little hints and may be the one for you
2006-12-04 11:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a car
2006-12-04 11:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok, you just pounce
2006-12-04 11:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by DuDe-Is-ThAt-MiCaH 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋