my husband says swapping partners isnt cheating i hate doing it dont feel right
what can i do
2006-12-04 11:22:47 · 25 answers · asked by going nuts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it isnt cheatin and they just want u do be apart of it so it justifies them doin it. if u dont want to do it and u have already done it and let him do it, he will do it behind ya back instead of stopping..so now all u can do is get out find someone else. dont tell ya next man about it tho.
2006-12-04 11:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men love swapping because it is the fantasy of getting some strange. They enjoy the variety of new partners to mate with. Even if they don't do it, they think about it and wish their dream could somehow come true. It's about enjoying variety.
It isn't cheating if everyone agrees.
Maybe a little weed will help take the edge off and you'll enjoy it more? In any case, I'm sure you'll get all sorts of judgmental answers from a bunch of moralistic prudes, so maybe we should ask for Ted Haggard's opinion on the matter? I suggest we open our minds and lighten up a bit. Relax and enjoy the gifts life has to offer.
2006-12-04 19:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should not do anything that is uncomfortable for you, just refuse to participate and ask him to stop too. There is a risk involved that he will not, and then think now what you will do in such situation. Swapping partners is group sex is open marriage and spouses agree not to consider it infidelity. Majorities of people disapprove of open sexual activity. Critics have put forward moral, medical, and psychological objections to open relations. The lack of social acceptance places pressure on couples to hide their open sex from family, friends, and colleagues.
2006-12-04 19:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! You have to stand up for what you believe in, don't go against your own morals - for anyone. Someone very near and dear to my heart told me that it may be a normal thing for them (person wanting to swap) but if it is not something you want, then it is sick. Don't do things or be around people that you do not feel safe with its up to you to not let it happen. You are responsible for your happiness and life. If it continues, get out. I hope I've helped. Good luck.
2006-12-04 19:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make how you label it? Cheating or not, it makes you uncomfortable - this is good enough reason for him to back off. Don't do it if you don't like it. If he insists - find a new husband. Chances are, this isn't the only instance when he's gonna treat you disrespectfully.
2006-12-04 19:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like doing, DON'T DO IT!!!!! And yes absolutely it's cheating. Because your having sex with someone who your not married to. And even if they are consenting, it IS cheating. God created sex to be between a husband and wife, not a man and another man's wife, or a man and a man or woman and a woman.
You and your husband need to get out of the lifestyle. Because it sounds like your starting to resent him. Because if you don't get out of it, your going to end up in a divorce.
I've been in that horrible lifestyle and my wife and I almost got divorced because of it. And I'm so glad that we are no longer doing that anymore.
2006-12-04 19:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is cheating...If he is having sex with someone else it is cheating. First of all making love is something that should be kept between 2 people. I guess it all depends on your or his beliefs. Maybe he is a swinger that is what is sounds like swapping partners. If you don't like it don't do . And don't do it to please him if you don't like it. Your in the relationship to. and its your heart that's getting put on the line
2006-12-04 19:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by tonyad143 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if it dosent feel right then dont do it i can see where your coming from but i can see where hes coming from too, in a guys eyes, if your there or if you know about it, its not cheating but in a womans eyes, its your husband with another woman it wouldnt bother me but if it bothers you, id tell him or things could end up bad and im sure the intention is not to hurt your feelings. guys arent manogomus and this way, they feel like they are being manogomus lol
2006-12-04 20:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by enochsangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's just into it to get his freak on with another chick and he doesn't care one whit what you think, what you do, or who does what TO you, then you BET it's cheating!
What do you do?? Simple. You tell him that either this cheating-in-the-open stops, like, Yesterday or he can find himself another life partner. Because you value yourself more than to allow him to debase and disrespect you like this!
2006-12-05 20:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but in the eyes of the law and most everyone else it is cheating. If you don't like it, don't do it. It has been my experience that he is going to cheat anyway, he is just looking for you to give him the go ahead so "HE" doesn't feel like its cheating.
2006-12-04 19:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by badBrad97 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋