Is it OK to think about it?? Is this a warning sign, before everything falls apart?
2006-12-04 11:17:52 · 28 answers · asked by R.C.P. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It might just be marriage jitters. But I heard a quote the other day, I forget from who, but they were asked how their marriage worked and they said, "divorce can never be an option."
2006-12-04 11:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was engaged a LONG time ago. And that exact same thought crossed my mind, even though divorce was not in my history (no family member had divorced, etc). That gentleman ended up dumping me 3 weeks before the wedding (invitations/deposits/dress all bought and/or sent out). I wish I could thank him a million times over. He did the best thing for us.
I always went from boyfriend to boyfriend...usually overlapping. OK....always overlapping. When I met my (now) husband, I never even once looked back. I could not "see" past him. I did NOT have any back-up plans made. We've been married 13 years now - extremely happy!
I sure wouldn't go into a marriage like that. You aren't truly making a vow or commitment if you do. You're holding something back and that's not fair to you or the other person.
;)
2006-12-04 13:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal to go back and forth thinking what if. The main thing is you love each other no matter what. The meaning of marriage is forever together till death do us part. When you say those vowels you just cant walk away when things come up you have to work things out regardless to what the situation is. So if your feeling like this person isn't the one the stop before you do something you will regret. And it easy to say let's get a divorce, but actually getting one is papers after papers and money. Now who wants to be tied up in court for 6 months not only that spending money on something that could of been avoided in the beginning so think about it. Good Luck and Congratulations
2006-12-04 11:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think, 'no matter what , I will stick with the marriage ' theory is reasonable. With that kind of confinement.. I feel one actually tries harder to get out of the relationship. I feel it is safe and healthy to think the way you think. You never know how the other person is going to turn out after the marriage. Just because you have that option open, it does not mean you will want to get divorced, no matter what.. It just means.. if the other person is not your type, does not make you happy, you both are not compatible and then you can get out. And that just makes you stronger because you are prepared for the worst.. not that you will definitely take that option.
I feel in this current world one can never be 100% sure about anything. Also.. every person is changing.. at every moment. The marriage will sustain if both the persons change in the same direction and grow with each other. And that you can only know after you are married. So get married.. and try your best to make it work.
2006-12-04 11:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by G M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is a huge warning sign something is wrong. When you go into the marriage it should be with no doubt or you are setting up to fail in a situation that is already difficult. Then every little argument or rough spot you'll want out. That's the wrong attitude to have to go into a life long committment.
2006-12-04 11:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
such as each body else stated, allow IT bypass!!! I absolutely have a daughter with my ex, yet he continues to be her father as i'm her mom. It takes 2 to tango, sorry. he's not only the sperm donor. Be fortunate he's wanting him in the course of the summer season. you're fortunate you aren't to any extent further one among those women those who's infant's daddies disappeared and they are stuck elevating their new child on their own. a minimum of you've someone prepared to take him. Suck it up. It sounds like you're mad that your ex is chuffed and getting married and also you do not opt for your son of their wedding ceremony. Why? in case you've been the only getting married and your ex change into saying "i do not opt for MY son of their wedding ceremony" you'd be quite aggravated. except for, you should have replied to the e-mail at modern-day upon getting it because evidently like you probably did not care one way or yet another. Now that you got here upon out he's getting married, you're mad about it. i understand it is puzzling to suck up, yet you had sex with this guy, you had a decision to decline or be on valid birth control, it truly is the outcome of your determination. improve up, and settle for that your son has a sparkling step mom. Meet her, get including her, be an man or woman. you'd be wanting that out of your ex once you get into yet another courting, I advise you supply him the same courtesy!
2016-11-23 16:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, actually I did and guess what.......... I ended up divorced
Its normal to have "cold feet" but I personally think if the word divorce is even in your head marriage is not the right move. It's easier to get married than it is to get divorced and you should be 100% sure you want to spend the rest of your life with this person.
2006-12-04 11:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warning! Warning! Warning! Your thoughts should be that you can't wait to spend the rest of your life with this person. You should be thinking you are the luckiest person ever because you have found the most beautiful jewel on the planet. You should be thinking that you can't remember life without this person. You should be crying at night because you feel you are the luckiest person in the universe to have found this kind of happiness. If you don't feel these things...I would wait until you do.
2006-12-04 11:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by 1truthseeker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kewl avatar, duuude!
Yeah, if you're thinking of the 'bail out' possibilities, then it's a warning sign. People don't give much thought to the principle of marriage these days. It's all too easy to find something else that's nicer, so throw away your spouse, or what not.
I say, if you have any reservations, don't do it. There is always some fear and trepidation that accompanies commitment of any sort, and that's normal.
2006-12-04 11:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Saffire♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is awful. If you're not sure it's going to work it probably won't. The best marriages are ones where both parties believe divorce is not an option because they will both try harder to keep the marriage going even at the expense of getting their own way all the time.
2006-12-04 11:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced and when I remarried I thought to myself that if this doesn't work out I'm going to marry for money the third time because obviously I don't have any luck in the love department.
2006-12-04 13:58:59 · answer #11 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋