My wife and I have had some major issues go on in our relationship and are on the path of divorce. How do you you move past the hurt you have done to each other and see if under all the anger there is still love there?
2006-12-04 11:16:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been in marriage cousling and no longer go. It seemed the the dr. was only focusing on tip of the iceburg of the problems and not focusing on the real issues that we both had.
2006-12-04 11:21:17 · update #1
Without knowing what you two have done to each other, it sounds like you have both experienced one another for better or worse. I can tell you that I have seen miracles for married couples only through prayer. I would seek another counselor if she is willing and see if that helps. Please don't ever view a person for the reason to live. You say you are hopeless, pray.
2006-12-04 11:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have only been married a little under 3 years and we've already had problems from infidelity (she cheated on me while I was in Iraq) to me getting arrested on a BS felony charge because she lied to the police. Now I've done my share of damage as well, I cheated on her in an act of revenge. We've been down the divorce path a few times. But what I feel keeps us together is the ability to learn from our mistakes, forgive each other, and remember why we got married in the first place. Counseling is also a huge help. Remember that it takes two to make a marriage work. Good Luck Bro.
2006-12-04 19:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by Perry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now is when you need to go outside of your marriage and get help. You need a marriage counselor to see if your marriage is salvageable, I hope you can work it out. Remember what made the two of you fall in love in the first place.
2006-12-04 19:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling to learn how to forgive and move on. Go for as long as it takes. There is a high divorce rate in this country. Do everything you can to save your marriage.
2006-12-04 19:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...For me I would try taking some time apart. Letting the anger subside a bit and then possibly try to reconnect. It also wouldn't be a bad idea to attend couples therapy and individual therapy.
2006-12-04 19:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by urztrulyash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. It's the only way. Perhaps there IS no love under the anger, who knows. You just have to force yourself to find other things to occupy your mind with.
2006-12-04 19:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to take one day and think of all the good things. Then think about the bad things. If the good things is far out shadowed by the bad things, then you may need to part ways.
Good Luck to you!
2006-12-04 19:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) Read Dr. Phils relationship rescue advice in the link below. I wish you and your wife happiness and peace :-)
2006-12-04 20:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dreaming its not possible they may forgive but they will never forget
2006-12-04 21:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by cindybells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋