I own and operate my own business. I was on business and was to be home on a Saturday but came home two days early only to find my wife having an affair. It split my heart in half. The next morning I filed for divorce and was given custody of our only child. She came crawling back, begging to work things out. I did not want to be the first one in my 125 yr family tree to be divorced, so I told her on one condition, that we councling and she agreed. After twelve weeks of councling, the Dr at the end of the session asked me, "do you want this marriage to work out?" and I said yes, then he said, "then you must drop the divorce". Three days after I dropped the divorce, she filed and now has custody of our child. I am just about to go postal on that woman......what the hell can I do now????
2006-12-04 11:15:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just remember what comes around goes around and hopefully she will get hers in the end...if u find anything about her that can prove to the courts that she is unfit u might want to use it in court or call children services...the only other thing i can tell u is to get one hell of a good lawyer and bury that biotches azz once and for all...good luck
2006-12-04 11:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not a whole lot you can do. Not sure if you were set up or not, but now for some bad news. Chances are that, no matter who filed, that in actual court, unless mom has charges of child,or drug/mental abuse, she will be awarded custody with you having to pay child support and possible spousal support too. Shell probably get the house due to the child. No matter what youve done to try and save your marriage,youre about to get screwed royally which is not fair. The courts will not care about her affair and it wont effect your divorce either. The rest of marital property will be decided by the judge. Sure do wish I had a better answer for you but the law is what it is and sometimes just plain sucks.Sorry, but do wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-12-04 19:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry this has happened to you. This is not the time to let your emotions get the best of you. If you have a best friend, family member, or someone at your church talk with them... Tomarrow first thing in the morning go to a lawyer... if the divorce is not final then she only has temporary custody that can be changed... if you know the man who she was with... you may need to suponea him into court. at least let her know that you will and can drag her thru the mud to get your child... she is scum of the earth if she didnt want to be married to you she could have told you before she became a shut and started sleeping with someone else... do what ever you can to get your child. your lawyer has records that you filed before her. I dont think that will become a problem... ill pray for you and your child... DONT GIVE UP... these things take time... Keep your cool... youll have plenty of time for hurting later when its all finished... God Bless you...
2006-12-04 19:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First i am really sorry, thats not cool.... remember you need to keep your cool and try and stay focused you have more dirt on her and she will be the one looking like the fool in the end, at court.. divorce is an ugly thing and it can rip a guy apart and if you arent careful you can fall in to a hughe depression... so remember to stay grounded and as much as it hurts take notes and write everything down and present them in your court appearance's... but you have to stay cool... if you dont she will only hurt you more in the end.
i had a friend who found the same thing out alittle to late and she left with their daughter he didnt keep his cool one night and is suffering bad for it, she holds his daughter from him at times... dont let that happen to you!!!
2006-12-04 19:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by tired 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your wife is a selfish, manipulating beyotch, and family tree or no, you'll be miserable if you stay with her. Get out now for your sake and the sake of your kid. This is an unhealthy environment in which to raise a child.
2006-12-04 19:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by rtanys 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Just be the best dad you can be. Dragging your kid into a nasty custody dispute won't help anyone. Be civil to your ex and hopefully you guys can work out a joint custody arrangement.
2006-12-04 19:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a good attorney, and you need to be very careful to keep your child out of the middle of the problems you have with your wife.
2006-12-04 19:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she is a really awful person who doesn't deserve you. contact your lawyer ASAP! He will have better advice than anyone on the internet. Good Luck with everything!
2006-12-04 19:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked yourself why she cheated on you????Have you been negleting her??Putting your body and soul to work forgeting that you have a wife!is she starved?(you know what im talking about)????If you are guilty of the questiongs asked,then accept your fault,take her back and be a better husband and father...Goodluck.
2006-12-04 19:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by izuma4 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
(((hugs))) What a selfish witch. Reapply for custody of your child and please, please, please let the guilt over being the first divorce in 125 years go. It's not your fault and marriages take two willing partners. I wish you happiness and peace :-)
2006-12-04 20:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋