When I go anywhere with my husband and a pretty woman walks in, he make it a point to stare at her until she notices him and he just has to talk to her if at anyway possible. He says he doesn't do it and that I just amagin it; or he will say that he is just a nice guy and he can't help it. He also loves to instigate and then lie about it.
2006-12-04 11:13:17 · 20 answers · asked by Trudy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband was the same way. I would talk to him about it and he swore I was imagining the whole thing. He would flirt with women and act like he was suprised when the flirted back with him. He has self esteem issues wether he is handsome or not something is lacking in his character and he does that to make up for it or make himself feel better. You need to get to the root of the problem. For me my husband had abandonedment issues from his mom giving him away but he never delt with them. Now is older now and women don't find him as attractive as before and it is killing him now he wants to be all over me. I have delt with it for so long I just ignore him all together. I would suggest you flirt with someone and when he ask whats going on open up a dialogue if he refuse to come out and talk with you about it.
2006-12-04 11:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem in the long run if he isn't considering your feelings. I'd let him know it makes you feel uncomfortable and disrespected while he's doing it in your presence.
Also, try to figure out why this is happening now- unless he's been like this all along. Trying to fix the catalyst to the problem could be a good solution too.
2006-12-04 11:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men look, some take it a bit further. I would have to say flirt with other men while he is watching. Maybe he isn't getting enough attention at home.
2006-12-04 11:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by mvas800 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are hard wired to be hunters. If he isn't asking for their numbers, just have a giggle at his expense. If he knows you are not going to be mad about it, maybe he will be more likely to admit to doing it. Also, make sure he gets enough ego stroking at home that he doesn't have to fish around for it elsewhere.
2006-12-04 11:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend with a wandering eye and I cured him out of the habit by staring at other men and flirting with them while with him, when he started to realize how it feels he stopped it immediatly. I told him that what was good for him was good for me...
2006-12-04 11:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Wild_Lilly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my current bf is like that....IS your husband a LEO too? Hmmm well seems some guys just have to be self centered and irrogant huh? Don't stroke his ego by making it known you know what he is up too......the more attention he gets from whomever the more he will do it. Maybe he is a player maybe not but either way...he needs that attention...sad really. UNLUCKY US!
Good luck...........
2006-12-04 11:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow,
Sounds like you're married to my ex husband.
Worlds worse lier and flirter.
What to do, After seven years of marriage
nothing else worked , so I divorced him.
2006-12-04 11:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine says he does that with everyone, and I just notice if its a pretty girl. He's full of it. I really don't care anymore - but when I did, it bothered me terribly.
2006-12-04 11:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's always done this, you're probably not going to get him to stop. Keep your eyes on him, but don't start a fight, you know he wont let you win. Cry yourself a river. Build a bridge, then get over it.
2006-12-04 11:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you do not consider the behavior acceptable and tell him that you will tell him while he is doing that in your presence.
It might help if you do this in a calm instructive manner. It would also help to remove the chip from your shoulder.
2006-12-04 11:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋