im onlyyung, i kno tihs. and i think im abusing alcohol. i dont relli think. but when im babysitting my brother he causes a lot of trouble and puts me under soooooo much stress. i also have a few frend and boyfriend issues but thats not the problem. my mom keep things like Bayleys, Vodka and other alcoholiv drinks around, and when shes not home ill mix sumthing for myself. i do it to make the pain leave me and to lighten myslef up some. i drink untill i feel dizzry and cant seem to stand up or say anything without laughing. i dont kno wut being drunk is like and i doubt i have been. i need advice on how to deal with my problems. [no councelors plz, family does not accept it into religion]
2006-12-04 11:11:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
thanx amy, and everyone else so far, but i have tried everything. this is a last resort attempt. i dunno but maybe it is boyfriend and friend problems, mostly it feels like my brother just likes to **** me off. i remember once being dizzy and [drunk] i guees and he got away with everything. maybe this is why he does it. maybe this is why i do, takes the pressure off of me.
2006-12-04 11:25:07 · update #1
I would say, you need to tell your parents. If they are willing to leave alcohol around they may be willing to let you see a counselor. I know you say this is against you religion, however sometimes as parents we have to look beyond those constraints and do what is best for our children.
As for the stress, try to step back and breathe before you reach for the bottle. I had a younger brother, boyfriend issues, and all that teenage stresses have to offer. However, find an outlet: writing, painting, acting, singing, sports, anything that you can focus your energy into to help you control these urges.
Sounds like you are also more of an addictive personality. That beig said, you need to realize when you reach for a bottle of vodka you are more likely to return again and again as a way to fix these problems. You need to look inside of yourself and ask "Is this really the road I want to go down? Do I want to be in AA by the time I am 20?" Turning to alcohol etc to deal with problems is not going to ease them it will only make them worse.
I Hope This Helps,
Amy
2006-12-04 11:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes ppl do things to relive the pain (stress) when they really should deal with it. obviously something is bothering you. sometimes talking about your problems with someone close to you (and you trust) can take some of the sress off. try new alternatives to drinking like sports are great stress realivers do something you enjoy. sometimes taking a few deep breathes and looking at the situation from diffrent views can calm you down and i know brothers are a lot of sress and it seems like there trying to make your life a living hell but don't let it get to you. i think wht you relly need to do is express your emotions instead of keeping them to much inside (try writing down wht your really feeling on a sheet of paper sometimes it helps). and if you can't stop drinking slowly lighten up till you stop. instead of drinking vodka or baileys have pepsi or something. just try it most of it is just will power.
2006-12-04 11:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by dani............... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see your dizzy with the giggles and you can't stand. Girl you are drunk. You really need to get some help from some where and you requested no counselor well with out them or just STOPPING and telling you parents the truth you can't fix your problems your not ready to. Good luck!!!
2006-12-04 11:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by lovelittlelulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try as best as you can to LAY OFF of this.
Find a new hobby or sign up for a soprt.
When you get REALLY stressed, and feel like you can't take it anymore, TAKE A DEEP BREATH, and say, everything is going to be ok.
But like I said, find an active sport to do. It'll take your mind off of a lot of things, and you'll just be free to be yourself and have fun!
2006-12-04 11:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by la. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be a downer but that is erresponsible to do with a child in the house, with your judgement impared, anything that goes wrong can turn into a huge problem.if your looking for an alternative, call a friend, get a journal and write down your pressure, make a record journal(record your thoughts and feelings, listen to them,and see how you can fix it.) do not abuse drugs-or alchohal-it can ruin your life!
2006-12-04 18:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by Dani California 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting dizzy and laughing at everything means that you have been drunk. Lay off the booze! Try something else to relax yourself (I like music).
2006-12-04 11:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you have a friend or something you cn call whenever you think about drinking or you might have to tell your mom so she can move the alcohol out of the house because you could end up hurting someone or go to and adult you trust and can talk to
2006-12-04 11:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by crystal b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I did not read it all because you sould really spell check. Your mom should not have it around and you are way to young for that. Worry about school ... and "guy or girl stuff" thats much more acceptable for your age
2006-12-04 11:15:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you did this to yourself because i dont think you woke up oneday and said ow my head hurts, hey i know i can go downstairs and mix myself up a suicide drink , yeah that sounds great, i think you did this because you wanted to and it got out of hand, see a counselor for petes sake
2006-12-04 12:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by ohh babyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are and how old are you? You really need to talk to someone close that's in your family before you hurt your self.
2006-12-04 11:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋