i know its bad, but whats the best revenge for a cheating bfriend. i trusted him completly and he broke my hrt

Question

was so in love and he cheated with some fat assed horseface(sorry couldn't help myself) now he is with someone else and i have gained wait comfort eating to forget him. I have been in a zombie like state and feel like there's no point living. i want him to feel the same pain i feel although i don't think its possible as iam numb with pain.

Answer 1

i know what you feel and im sad 4 u.
Just move on and think of this...
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us"
And always think of this...
*Never be sad for what is over, just be glad it was once yours"
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Lets help each other to move on..
God bless!!

Answer 2

I know where you are right now and it is not a nice placeto be. But you knowhe is a cheat.....and a womaniser by the soundof it and I think you know you are better off withouthim. Thing is and it is sad thatthese types see nothing morally wrong with what they have done to you because simply not mture enough to relate to anyone else properly or waht they might feel. He will probably othrough life like this.

The best revenge and it is going to take strength from you is to get a grip of yourself and really sort out the diet etc and look your best and get out there and enjoy life. There are plenty of other men around. This guy would be secretly very pleased to think you were moping abouthim....would feed his pathetic ego beautifully. He is going to goon and repeat the patern of behaviour. And maybe just maybe one day someone will do exactly the same to him.
Try as I suggest......I am trying....and it is hard...no mistake. But as women we deserve so much more and we have to make sure we get it.
The pain will ease....honest itwill....the anger well that too.....and to forgive is to release yourself. Even if you forgive because its out of a pity that he is such a sad person really and will never experience real love. Good luck.

Answer 3

The very best revenge you can get in a situation like this is to forget about this guy and move on with your life. He is not worth wasting good years of you life on. Do some volunteer work in a hospital or a homeless shelter. Join a gym or take a class through your community center. He obviously didn't love you as much as you loved him. That happens, it is not a reflection on you as a person. Do whatever it takes to start new...take a vacation, find a new job, move. It is not a comfort to know, but pain and suffering makes us stronger. This relationship was not meant to be. Forget the revenge on him - it won't make you feel any better.

Answer 4

Gonna tell you a little story.....bear with me a minute: When my sister was younger the same thing happened to her. Her boyfriend was cheating and dumped her. He was away at college and she even drove the two hours there to beg him to change. He dumped her. So she drove back home knowing he would not be back in our hometown until the holidays (6 months later). At that time she knew he would go to the local bar everyone went to, to hang out with his friends. So, for six months she went on a diet, got a knew haircut, worked on herself, bought a new outfit....the works. On the night she knew he would be back in town, she walked into the bar he was in and walked past him. He did a double take and said hi to her with a big smile. She smiled and said "oh hi, how are you". Without even waiting for an answer she walked through the bar, briefly said hello to some friends and went home. The next day he called her. She had my mother tell him she was busy and would call back. She did not call him for a while. Eventually it was HIM chasing her. They ended up married. (She ended up dumping him and is now getting married to someone great and living in a gorgeous house with an inground pool with her own company and everything) The moral of the story is that revenge is best served cold.....or living well is the best revenge....or something like that. LOL

Answer 5

I suppose its human nature to feel that way especially when your hurting and he was the one hurting you. All I can say is he will get his own pain some day. What goes around comes around. It may be a woman he's flip for and she will be the predator. Or perhaps he wants a great promotion and gets passed over. All things do come around in the end.

I would worry more about how your letting this make you feel. You need to get back up on your horses and know your better off with out this man. Worse you could have been married wth children and then have more problems seperating everything. Cause when it come right down to it when the dust has cleared by you getting him back you will only feel satisfaction a short time and then its back to you. and meantime you have caused more pain you ar e the bigger person here rise above this. and dont' stoop to that level you arleady seen what it did to you. Your better than that my dear.

You need to concentrate on getting back on your feet. And try to switch your thinking around so your not eating the wrong stuff. i know its easy to say hard to do. when your a sensitive person you feel everything 10x more so you will also feel if you know you did the wrong thing back in return.

My advise don't do it. YOUR better than he is. Rise over this my dear. and walk with your head high.

Look at it this way he did you a favour better you shouild know now than later right?

You'll make it.

Answer 6

why would u allow a jerk to do this to u, the best revenge is to get slim, and beautiful, and let him see u have suceeded and are happy in spite of the fact he tried to hurt u. he is not worth it, wouldn't have been there for u anyway. when my ex of 10 yrs left me i was devistated, but instead of eating myself to death, i lost all of my weight, came to the divorce in a little black dress, i was thinner than he had ever seen me. as long as u still have expectations from him, u will stay in the pain. as long as u blame yourself for his choices u won't move on. this was about his poor impulse control, and don't think for a minute this other girl will find happiness with him, and that it was u, cause this is about who he is, his character. why allow him to have this much power over u? don't focus on the other girlfriends, just loose that weight, u are eating due to depression, u feel u have suffered a great loss, not so, u lost nothing, u lost a looser, and a cheater, with no intregedy. u have to be careful what u are telling yourself, u are telling yourself u are nothing, because u feel if u were something, he would not have left u. he would have left u no matter what, he will keep moving on with other's. the new girlfriend isn't getting a prize, and when u were with him u didn't have a prise either. got to see him for exacly what he is, not the illusion u had of him.

Answer 7

I found the best revenge is to look great have fun and move on to better nobody likes to think that they did you a favor but they did. So get out of the house get moving and call some friends get your hair done and hit the town....smiling because even though you don't know it like is going to be way better.

Oh and an old saying goes if it revenge you seek than you had better be digging 2 graves.

Answer 8

You can stoop down to his level, rob yourself of any dignity, and destroy your character by acting like a immature vindictive child. Or, you could stay above him in the character department and just move on with you life. There is man out that will show you what true love is.

By seeking revenge, you are allowing him to still control you emotionally Get yourself and even better guy and just enjoy life.
Don't give him a second thought.

Do what is dignifying. You will feel better in the end and your character will be stronger.

Answer 9

Sounds like so far you have been taking revenge on yourself. Cut your losses and move on. Whenever you're in a relationship, you essentially gamble with your heart; some days you lose, some days you hit a jackpot. Your time is better spent aiming for this jackpot; get in shape and start looking for someone else.

It's easier to bear the loss if you realize that you're in control of what happens, and that you carry your share of responsibility for both success and failure. If you always blame someone for everything that happens to you - you won't be able to function normally. Acknowledge your responsibility for the choice you made, learn from it, and try to do better next time.

Answer 10

OH how I no what you are going through my husband riped my heart out of me and walked on it.That was 8 years ago and I still cry about what he did to me.We did get back together after two and a half years of him telling me over and over he did not cheat on me.He even swore on his parents life that he did not cheat.I have read a lot of books on the subject of Cheating husbands and men in general.I must say I have lost a lot of respect for men.Men have gotten away with hurting us women sense the beginning of time.I must add that not all men are cheaters just about 95 % are.

Answer 11

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