Between the age of 9 and 13 me and a friend of mine would play all the time. We use to play house she told me to be the mom and she the husband. I would cook and ya know do all the things that kids playing house do...including have sex. I didnt really know exactly what I what i was doing. We would go to her room and she would tell me to strip down into my bra and panties sometimes a tee shirt, usually it would be to go to sleep she would say because men and women sleep together. When we slept together she would roll over and tell me lay on my back she would get on top grind and hump me for hours... I mean hours sometimes it would be two or three hours at a time.This happened maybe once or twice a week for years. I put it to the back of my mind but then I started having strong feelings for women. I just need a better explanation maybe other peoples feelings about what happened to me. I have not told family friends... no one!
2006-12-04 10:56:53 · 11 answers · asked by bicub0603 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have to add I did like it, it was weird and i didnt know why but it was and yes she was three years older than me.
2006-12-04 15:17:38 · update #1
I meant i didnt like it
2006-12-05 02:46:16 · update #2
The definition of molestation is any unwanted touch, so if you didnt want it then ya, but if you were fine with it then you're a lesbian, it happens.
2006-12-04 10:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she was significantly older than you, and she coerced you or otherwise took advantage of you, then what happened may satisfy someone's definition of sexual molestation.
On the other hand, if you two were essentially the same age and you were a willing participant in the bedtime frolicking, then it probably wasn't molestation. Sometimes sex play is just what little kids do.
Either way, you don't need to be ashamed of what you felt then, and you don't need to be ashamed of what you're feeling now. If you think there are lots of unresolved sexuality issues, it may help you to speak with a licensed mental health professional.
2006-12-04 11:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bicub,
Thanks for your question. It sounds like this has been bottled up inside you for a long time and you don't know what to do. That usually happens to people dealing with such a situation as you had when you were young.
Please seek out professional assistance to talk about this experience. A therapist will keep what you say confidential and help you process these experiences. Oftentimes, your work or school has free consultations with a professional you can talk to that won't effect your work or school. Ask human resources for this information.
Please start this today. It will do you a world of good.
Good luck.
2006-12-04 11:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My understanding is that whether it is called molestation depends on whether there is a big age or power difference between the children involved. Apparently many children engage in sexual play. I don't know about your particular situation, but I recommend that you talk to a psychologist and get help with dealing with the effects of this sexual interaction, whatever label they put on it.
2006-12-04 11:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I don't think you've been molested per se. I would say, if you can, try talking to your friend if you know how to contact her. Another thing I would recommend is getting therapy. Good luck and God Bless! Hope things get better for you! By the way, you need to talk to someone close to you about this.
2006-12-04 11:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by freakykittygoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where were your PARENTS when all of this was going on?!?!
That's the most extreme case of playing "house" that I've EVER heard of!
Here's what you do, put it in your PAST where it rightfully belongs and remember it no more. Today is the day to be concerned with. You aren't gay because of that experience. You are lying to yourself if you believe that. You were the victim of negligent parents and an overly curious and aggressive "friend", no more.
2006-12-04 11:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Herr Doctor has it right and a counsler will be a great help to you.
We all have had childhood experiences in one form or another-good and bad and inbetween-try to think of this as an inbetween if possible and enjoy life to it's fullest.
2006-12-04 13:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't have any problem with it at the time, in fact enjoyed it, I'd guess you were already a lesbian.
Besides, if you prosecuted ever kid that experimented sexually there wouldn't be any adults not in prison right now...
2006-12-04 11:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost the same thing happened to me when i was about 7-12, and it was w/ another female. Yes, you were molested. The girl who molested you was probably taking advantage of you b/c you were younger, and she was curious about sex. I have never told my parents about my molestation, but you should.
2006-12-04 11:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you were molested. Talk to your parents about. Or if you do not feel right talking to your parents talk to a concler. Or the girl that did it.
2006-12-04 11:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋