Seems like my wife has been less than toughtful on our anniversary, again! Not even a card. Is this normal in a marriage?
Or does she not care? I have never forgotten, she always gets flowers, plus a gift and dinner.
2006-12-04 10:51:35 · 13 answers · asked by MIster G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hmmmmm
my husband and I always exchange cards and some little something..a special dinner....a weekend away....a small gift.....something ....ask her what she is thinking? let her know that it bothers you that she just doesn't think to do anything and that it hurts your feelings....unless she knows how you feel, it may never change...good luck and nice to see a sensitive man on here for a change
2006-12-04 11:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a married couple should give each other gifts on their anniversary or agree not to give gifts but do something special to celebrate. Would you say that your wife is a selfish person generally? Or is she just like this about anniversaries? From now on, you might want to forget the flowers and gift and just agree to go out to dinner. Maybe she isn't the sentimental type and you are. Does she get you something for your birthday? Christmas? It could be that she feels that you were lucky that she agreed to marry you, so she feels that you should come bearing gifts and that she, like a queen, receives them. Not knowing the two of you, it is difficult to say what the problem is. But if it hurts you that she doesn't acknowledge your anniversary, then you should tell her that you are hurt by her thoughtlessness and ask her why she doesn't want to celebrate your marriage.Believe me, many many women would love to have a husband who brought flowers and a gift plus took her out to dinner on their anniversary. They would be in heaven!
2006-12-04 19:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anniesgran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh....YES. Your situation is not normal. Does she love you? If you think so, are you sure? Is that her nature not to get you gifts? Has she ever gotten you a gift? Are there other ways she shows you that she loves you?
I know I'd get one and be expected to get one for my wife of 11 years.
2006-12-04 18:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by spanky1492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch sorry for you....
Does she do something for you like cook your favorite dinner or get dressed up for the bedroom if she does not buy you anything?
Maybe you need to sit her down and talk to her about how you feel..
2006-12-04 18:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the husband, it is your job to remember anniversaries. Remember she accepted your invitation for marriage and you vowed to cherish her.
2006-12-04 18:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife is the one that is always more thoughtful in gifts...I think there might be somthing wrong there..
2006-12-04 18:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmmmm...didn't she give u kids, some lovin in bed, affection??? If your materialistic, then ur missing the whole point of marriage.
2006-12-04 18:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by marhaba_hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a little bit of a role reversal...usually it is the husband who is forgetful. tell her how you feel. In psych I learned the ebst when to communicate feelings is: "When you______I felt______because_______"
2006-12-04 19:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dunno, maybe she's just not the "sentimental" type. It's not the card once a year that matters, it's how she acts towards you every day of the year. Does she not act like she cares? If not, there's your answer.
2006-12-04 19:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if she chooses to give you something. We only go out to eat and have fun in bed.
2006-12-04 19:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋