i have been straight my whole life, or maybe i was just going along with the other girls thoughts b/c i knew that is just how its supposed to be. but now, at age 14 i feel sexual thoughts 4 other girls, and i sort of have developed a crush on her.
me and my family are christians and i know its wrong to be gay, and my parents are always making fun of them. but maybe god could accept me....but my parents wont, and they'll hate me. but i dont even know 4 sure. but this is really hard to deal w/, and i know i only get one shot in life to make it work.
2006-12-04 10:50:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
every one says being gay is a choice but i really cant help it.
2006-12-04 10:50:53 · update #1
i cud be bi.
2006-12-04 10:51:28 · update #2
Hey!!
well, this should be pretty easy for me to answer since i am bi myself... && my family are christians, too, trust me i have the same thing going on, and i am 13... and no there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, there's nothing we can do about it... well, your first clue that you might be gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc... you know how you look at someone/something and you get that feeling inside that you dont want to look away?you will get this feeling ((it may not happen right away, it may take some time to starrt feeling like that)). Have you ever 'liked' a guy?? yea, well this is the same thing, but only w/ a girl. It will take a while, (maybe even a long time) to decide whether or not you 'float the boat'. I knew it took me years to figure it out, but after some experimenting, thinking, talking it over, and praying, I found that I was bisexual... it might not work the same for you, but i sure hope it does...
2006-12-04 11:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by yewSTOLEmyHEART 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just be nasty.
If you are a Christian then you should know that God does not accept any sin. It does not matter how big or small it maybe.
Plus, if you have to think so hard about it then it is wrong. If you think about it if anything is good you do not have to go on the Internet and ask people any question that relate to it, do you?
2006-12-04 13:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by shanelle045 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart God will always accept you. He created everything. Sexuality is NOT a choice, it's who you are. I do have one thing to say though. It's common and natural for people your age to have gay feelings. Your body is changing and hormones are raging. You may grow to be a gay adult, you may not. For your own happiness, let go of everyone's judgement of you and be perfectly honest with yourself. Denying your sexuality to yourself is denying your very existence and could bring severe depression, anger, and maybe worse.
BTW I'm 42 and still trying to figure it out. Good luck and God bless you!
2006-12-04 12:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, it is NOT wrong to be gay! God created and loves us all, and He created you the way you are. it is not a choice! whether you are lesbian or perhaps bi, you are young and just starting to have sexual feelings. no need to rush into anything, or rush into telling your parents. you have time to sort out how you really feel...who you are really attracted to. I realized I was lesbian when I was a teen, and was afraid to tell my parents for fear of rejection. I didn't come out to my family until years later after I had moved away from home....and my family accepts me and loves me for who I am.
2006-12-04 13:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay or straight isn't a choice. How you express your sexuality is a choice. Either be miserable or be true to yourself. As for the religious aspect, it is possible to be gay and christian. Check out this link: http://www.gaychurch.org/Gay_and_Christian_YES/gay_and_christian_yes.htm
Just take things a day at a time. If you do turn out to be a lesbian, then be proud of who you are. There's a lot of us out there. It's perfectly normal.
2006-12-04 11:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong to be gay. a god who discriminates is not one you want to worship. at 14, your still developing your sexual feelings. don't worry yet, you may just have a passng crush.
if you do turn out gay, you may want to move to california. sunny wheater, pretty coast, and very open to gay people, and balck people, and ........basically we don't care here on california.
dont worry be happy
2006-12-04 11:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying to figure out the same question and Im 20 good luck!
2006-12-04 11:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by bicub0603 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you still like guys and are turned on by "and" like girls then you are bisexual, i have 6 bi friends their cool as hell.
2006-12-04 10:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by ~Mmmkay?~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋