i am a gay male, i am in love with a woman though, for who she is inside, she is a straight female, and we have been together and friends for two years, we have done sexual things, i want to have kids and settle down, i only love her for who she is inside, but is it unhealthy if i am not atracted to her body...
2006-12-04 10:47:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should not marry her if you are gay. she probably has more love feelings for you and if you really care you will let her find her own happiness. you sound very confused, and until you sort out your sexual orientation, you should not go dragging another person's feelings into it, let alone bringing children into the world. if you are not attracted to her (or to women) there is a good chance that you never will be. you will not be happy if you are in denial about your sexual orientation, and neither will she be when she finds out.
2006-12-04 10:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How are you in love with a woman, enough to marry her? It doesn't add up...unless you're bi, I guess.
I love my best friend, would do anything for her, nothing to hurt her, love her for who she is...but I'm not gay, I don't want to be with her just because of how she is. If there's a man on the planet like her, I'll marry him.
I don't understand wanting to marry someone who is opposite the sex you prefer! I prefer men and would NOT marry a woman because I love who she is inside. I don't understand how you prefer men and want to marry a woman.
What I think is unhealthy is suppressing your true lifestyle and feelings to marry someone. I think that in the end, the "real you" will be back and want a man. Imagine how that could ruin this woman's life. If she's willing to take that chance with you, then I guess go for it. But think long and hard about it. If you really love her, think about her best interests.
2006-12-04 19:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Alishia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are gay why are you even dating a woman... being married is taking care of the inside as well as the outside... but then your so confused how would you know??? right... tell you what you need to do... find out who you are INSIDE AND OUT leave this woman alone and dont mess up her life she deserves better!! Also DON"T even think of having children... how many peoples lives are you willing to screw up before you find out who you really are and what you want... personally i think your bi and want to married and play around with other men on the side... and that's SICK my friend... get some help.... if not for you for the other men who you will be dealing with in your life... Merry Christmas.
2006-12-04 19:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've already got one part of a long marriage out of the way, you're not interest in her physically anymore. I think it would be a disservice to her and your kids for you to do that, because you would be denying who you are, and quite possiblity would want to move on at some point. Even though, you may be the one who loves her the best. Do her a favor and don't go there.
2006-12-04 19:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't hurt her more by making her think that you are attracted to her if you are really gay. It is an insult to her. Don't. Or maybe you are confused and not gay. I am not homophobic but I am aware that there is no gay gene (yet) and that there are 2 genders. Consider everything and be honest with her.
2006-12-04 18:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Black 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should marry her. you love someone for who they are not what they look like if se makes you happy then do it plus being gay is wrong straighten your life out and have your self a family do the right thing and be happy wih you all the luck and god bless
2006-12-04 18:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by lovingmychris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it...do not go there.... NO don't get married.
If your gay than you are gay if your bisexual and she understands and your willing to share her and she is willing to share you than maybe it would work. But you say you don't find her attractive sexually so why would you bother...you'll end up hating her for wanting you and she'll feel unloved for not being desired....so don't go there.
2006-12-04 18:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by lol_des 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE GAY!!! Do not lead this woman on into thinking that something more could happen.
2006-12-04 18:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH!!! i'm confused.....Isn't the inside what counts!?!?!?!? lol
Just remenber that male or female.... the whole "outside body" thing will change as they get older! - and gravity attacks us ALL.
2006-12-04 18:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by gabster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 'straight'. You are not 'straight'. You do not deserve her. You can not love her if you are not 'straight'. Not being 'straight' makes you confused, among other evil things.
2006-12-06 01:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by WEBBADGER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋