I am 25 years old, and i am 6 months pregnant, my boyfriend won't claim his child, he hits on me, and I am scared of him.
2006-12-04 10:29:30 · 11 answers · asked by Booney 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
GET OUT IMMEDIATELY!!! I was in your same shoes 2 years ago. I was lucky enough to have family in CA (We lived in VA) that helped me leave him. Get help from family or friends or a local women's shelter and leave and don't look back. Its not worth it to try to get this guy to pay child support or be a father when he is abusive: leave and don't let him know where you are at. Good Luck and Take Care sweetheart.
People who have never been in an abusive relationship never understand why we stay. Honestly, before I got in one: I always critised women who stayed in abusive relationships but now I understand these guys make you feel inferior and lower your self esteem to were you depend on them more than you realize and the fear of leaving is more than the fear of staying. You just have to make up your mind then stick to it.
2006-12-04 10:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! I am sooo sry u have to live this nightmare! Look, if he hits u u can't just get out right away cuse if u do & he finds out before u ever get 2 leave...sry, I don't mean to scare if I am I am just very concerned 'bout u & ur baby! Does he go 2 work? If he does pack all ur stuff then, & get out! If he comes back early then just say I am going 2 my friends house for a night! If he doesn't work then say ur going to the grocery store. Then call the police & have him arrested soon b-4 it gets worse! U should call the police ne wayz tho! Even if it means the babies dad might go to jail! Just think of it this way...u might not have a baby...then u'll be screwed 4life! Sweety, I hope u can get thru this with God by ur side...He will never leave u! I'll pray 4 ur saftey! If something goes wrong...my e-mail address is...jasmynsullivan@yahoo.com Have a great life w/u & ur baby! Mean while...stay w/ur family and/or friend(s) that u can trust! B SAFE GRL!
2006-12-04 18:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmyn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, obviously. Make absolutely sure you get the violence documented. If you won't press charges, in the very least make a police report. This is very important legally. It will limit his power of being able to do anything in the legal sense if he comes back around someday wanting to resume his role as Daddy.
Imagine if he has a change of heart in 2 years and wants joint custody of the child? You need evidence to make sure the court won't grant him that. Get the violence documented.
2006-12-04 18:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard. Take a deep breath, realize what a loser he is and tell him to get lost once and for all. You and your baby will be so much better off without him. Just think of all the exciting things you have coming up in your life without him to ruin it - especially a new baby. Don't let a weak bully like that scare you.
2006-12-04 18:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mary F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIS ***!!!! You don't need him. I'm a single mother too!! Do you have family you can go to? When the baby is born you can file for child-support and he will have to take a DNA test. Were do you live? Here is a web site that might help you. http://www1.dshs.wa.gov/ just choose child services and enter in your state. I hope this helps you. If your babies daddy is hitting you you need to leave. No matter what he or any one says you are not to blame and it is not your fault.
2006-12-04 18:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mother of one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a bully. Get help immediately.
Call a distress centre. Ask for info re Abused Women's shelters and take advantage of that. They will get you help.
Noone has the right to victimize anyone else.
I'll pray for you.
2006-12-04 18:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really need to be told what you should do?? you leave him (duh), make a police report about this abuse then when the baby is born get a court ordered paternity test and make him pay child support.
why are you even with someone who won't admit that the kid is his?? so he obviously thinks you're cheating on him and he's OK with that, that doesn't seem right.
2006-12-04 18:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away. I'm serious. It's hard but it's quite better for u and yr child to do without. Think about yr future.
2006-12-04 18:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by kaypy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are so scared then why don't you leave? when the baby is born get a dna test done to prove the baby is his, then take him to court for everything he's got!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-04 18:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the cops! Right Away!
2006-12-04 18:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋