How did you do this? Did you tell others? Did you keep it too yourself? What kinds of problems did you have? Were you able to find happiness? Did you find that RIGHT person? HOW? I know, clearly, I have isues! But whatever thoughts you have on this would be appreciated!
2006-12-04 10:22:00 · 8 answers · asked by angelover 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Coming to terms with being left-handed:
How did you do this? Did you tell others? Did you keep it to yourself? What kinds of problems did you have? Were you able to find happiness?
Is anyone ashamed of being left handed? Of course not. They were born that way ----- So what?
A homosexual has nothing to be ashamed of.
The original Bible texts saw no problem with homosexuality. Nor did they see any problem with being left-handed, or red-headed.
In 1611 when the original Bible was translated into English, the Religous leaders wanted to grow their empires by promoting propogation and big families; lots of children who would be raised to support their particular empire. So, they twisted a few Bible verses to sound like God condemns all homosexuality.
The most famous verse originally said, to the effect, "A married man should not spend time with another man as he would a woman because it would cause disharmony with his wife"
God was not condemning homosexuality, he was condemning "disharmony".
If you want to be ashamed of someone, be ashamed of religious leaders who will do anything to build, grow, and maintain their empires.
2006-12-04 10:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by MrsOcultyThomas 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I realized that I was bi, in my home town being attracted to the same sex wasn't talked about, so I didn't hear any negativity about it. I'd gotten away from christianity by that point too, so I just accepted my sexuality like I would have accepted any other personal preference. My parents wouldn't let me express my sexuality or my gender identity, so I spiraled downward at the age of twelve and avoided relationships entirely until I graduated high school and was out on my own. Since I'm a pre-op transwoman, it'll be years before I find anyone but a tranny chaser.
2006-12-04 11:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I started dating boys by the age of 13 but I would find myself staring at girls in the p.e. lockers and I used to be embarrassed because I did not want to get caught. Then @ the age of 20 yrs. I got married and that was my way out! Being around my husband gave me freedom to open and explore with girls and I found my true self! I always wanted to be with girls but never had enough courage to do so, coming from a Hispanic background. So now I've been married for almost 10 yrs. and have two kids my own home, my nice job, I'm able to date on the side- with girls of course and my husband doesn't mind at all, in fact he's the one that will tell me, "look there's a hot chick talk to her". It's nice to have an open relationship like mine!! I love it!
2006-12-04 10:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Rainbow Brite 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was pretty comfortable with myself as soon as I realized I was bisexual, because I hadn't changed at all, I had just identified my feelings for what they were. I told my friends and family because I don't like lying when I'm asked who I find attractive or why I'm not dating. I lost several friends and had some fallings-out with family members, but grew MUCH closer to the friends and family who accepted me as I am. I'm happier now than I've ever been before. I haven't found that right person, but I'm young and not in any hurry- I'd rather take my time about it.
I hope you have just as much joy out of life as I do.
2006-12-04 10:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by Zeke 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was talking to a friend of mine online that told me she was bi. I had been rambling about a character in a book I had a crush on (yeah, I know that's nerdy) and she asked me if I was bi. I've had crushes on girls for as long as I can remember, but I always just said I admired them, looked up to them or something. Once I stopped lying to myself, I was able to accept it. At first, I only told people over the internet. A couple of years ago, I became a bit more open about it and just a few months ago, I finally told my mom. ...who doesn't believe me, but that doesn't really matter.
I came to terms with my bisexuality at 15, I had my first...fling with a girl at 17 and now, I've got a boyfriend who accepts me for who I am. It's a long process, but you can find happiness!
2006-12-04 10:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Self-acceptance is the main thing. And many people do this and that is where the journey ends for them -- they keep their orientation to themselves. Sometimes they talk to a few trusted friends about it -- and if one can be found that is of their same orienation, that in itself is a real blessing. I am sure others here have their own words to tell too. Good luck.
The friendship factor related to this topic can be a real eye-opener.
2006-12-04 10:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm slowly trying to come out about being gay. Some of my friends accepted it, but not all.. so that made it really hard on me. I'm scared to death to tell my family. My mom and grandmother aren't fond of gay/lesbians, and they're the two people I'm absolutely closest to. I'm still looking for that 'right person' but, I'm still young as everyone says. It's hard to find openly gay females at my age of 16.
2006-12-04 10:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I would wait until you are comfortable with your own sexuality before you come out and tell people. I don't think you have issues you may be confused but you don't have issues. Good luck
2006-12-04 10:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋