this is kind of a sensitive subject, but i've been contemplating it alot since i've been going through some emotional problems lately... the biggest being that i found out my dad has been cheating on my mom for awhile. the only thing is that i really don't open up easily and i'm extremely doubtful that some strange person can really connect with me and help me.
i just don't really know anymore...
2006-12-04 09:35:52 · 10 answers · asked by cara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you even for a second think you need some help, then by all means go ahead and try it. Talking to a stranger can often be easier, since they are not in a position to judge you. Please, at least give it a try, you have nothing to loose.
2006-12-04 09:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy might help you undersand that there are some things within your control and certain things that aren't. What you'll begin to realize and appreciate is what you should really worry about ~ things that you can control and effect change. So yes, therapy might help you overcome the stress you're going through right now.
One way to look at your dad's infidelity is to take some positives for yourself out of that. Though an expensive lesson, it definitely let's you understand what signs you'll have to watch for, what usually causes such situations in relationships, and at least "how not" to deal with these situations.
It is almost impossible to even try to understand and explain why people behave the way they do. Leave alone trying to manage and control their behavior - be it your parent or spouse or children. So, doing the best you can given a set of circumstances without the fear of consequences, and continuing to believe and trust yourself and your judgement are the keys.
Hope you get over the unfortunate event in your life. Best wishes.
2006-12-04 17:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your problem. earlier this year i had to seek the help of a therapist. It was kinda weird at first but as i talked more about how i was feeling i became more comfortable and became much easier. The people who i talked to helped me a lot and gave me another point of view to look at. I would not have gotten through that bad time in my life if it had not been for the people at the counseling center and their understanding, non judgment, open minded willingness to listen and advise me. Try it what do you have to loose if nothing else you will have gotten your feelings off your chest and that might be enough to lighten your emotional load a bit. I hope things get better for you soon.
2006-12-04 17:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by frsttmshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy is not some magic solution that will make all your problems go poof and be gone. Therapy will get you to open up and dicuss what bothers you and tries to help you work your way thru whatever bothers you.It will work if you enter it with a open heart and mind and must really want it to work, and therefore work at it. You must first open up as the therapist doesnt know whats bothering you, but has worked with other young people with similar problems to yours. You need not tell anyone about what youre doing but a good friend does help. I understand your problem but cant really help you over the computer but please dont make your parents problem yours because you didnt cause him to cheat and as hard as it is to believe probably loves you very much and doesnt mean to hurt you. Its hard to believe but he probably didnt want to hurt your mom either but sometimes guys just do the stupidest things for no real apparent reason and dont see those who are hurt by their actions. Try the therapy and good luck
2006-12-04 17:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom that you know about what's going on with dad and that you feel that it's affecting you alot. Hopefully your mom will do the right thing and kick your dad out. As soon as that happens you guys need to go to family counseling your mom, you and bros' or sisters. Trust me- you're not the only one dealing with this kind of stress- your mom is too. I'm sure she knows by now that it;s affecting you. Just talk to your mom and if you ahve to shed a few tears then go for it- there's nothing worng with letting your emotions flow. If i were you i'd have a talk with my dad and let him know i what;s going on so he can feel emberrased of what he has done hopefully you will be able to tell him all you feel and get all that anger out of you.
2006-12-04 17:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my young friend, it can only help to seek counseling. You may find it difficult to open up at first, but a good therapist has a way of bringing the truth out and it's not as painful as you may think. The sooner you get help, the less likely you are to suffer later and longer. It really helped me. I call it mental floss...
2006-12-04 17:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many people like your self who feel the same way. You really need to consider it. It will help you understand the situation and your self more clearly..
2006-12-04 17:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think you should, it would be best, it would keep anything from happening to you and you will be surprised at how well you feel after you have talk to someone and actually got it off your chest.
2006-12-04 17:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by Engel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask. the answer is YES
2006-12-04 17:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Ms New Booty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!
2006-12-04 17:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by anjel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋