Withdrawing a proposal.....?

Question

i have asked a couple of questions regarding my earlier questions if i should be waiting for two weeks to get an answer on asking the love of my life to marry me. the feedback on here is basically 70% saying that i shouldnt have to wait even a couple of days for an answer. the sad thing is I really agree, & now i dont know what to do. but i did tell her that this friday is the deadline for her to answer me. but, here is another thorn in my side. she has a FINAL EXAM to take in 8 days on tues. she must get 149 out of 150 right to pass her RN course. so do i become an *** from hell on friday & ask for the answer, or wait until the day after the exam & then ask. if she doesnt give me an answer on friday, i walk, she cries, & most likely fails the test. if i wait, dont pressure her, & she STILL fails, well that isnt my fault, and i can always know that her failing school wasn't my doing. im stuck once again and im getting mad at this waiting game by keeping everything inside my head!!!

Answer 1

wait until she is done with school...meanwhile, don't be supportive and give yourself time to "unplug" from the relationship before you break it off....You need a woman that you can count on. It is cruel for her to make you wait on an answer to a proposal. Best of luck!

Answer 2

First off this is just my opinion. When you asked this lady to marry you it is a very big life changing decision and she has the right to take her time to answer. Would you rather she have yelled YES OH YES and then a week or two later given you back the ring saying she thought about it and has changed her mind? If she fails the test regardless of if you tell her friday is the dead line or you wait until after her finals it is NOT your fault. No one fails a test because of someone else.

Answer 3

I can understand the anticipation regarding your answer, however on the other hand look at your self. It seems like your acting as if your a spoiled child ( no disrespect to you). If she is not ready, then don't push her into a decision that will eventually and potentially hurt you. Her future right now is more important than your answer. I would allow the stress of it all (exam) to subside. If she knows that your expecting and answer and keeps putting you off then maybe you have your answer. Don't beg, you had asked and now it is in her hands. Like I said if she doesn't give you an answer within the next 3-4weeks, maybe it is time you moved on.

Answer 4

She is so busy with finishing her Rn Exam that your question is not on the top of her priority list at the moment I would wait for her to finish the test then for her to get the results if you have waited this long whats a couple of days for her to complete her degree.
Just remember if you guys do get hitched that nice RN paycheck
is going to do real well to help out financially in the long run. If you love her as much as you say you do be patient don't give ultimatums she may think your a jerk and leave you.

Answer 5

Dude, withdraw the proposal immediately. If she has your ring, be sure to get it back before you tell her. You know already that if she wanted to marry you, she would have jumped at the opportunity. Now that that is resolved. The relationship is over! That is, once you are in a relationship and one person ask the other to marry them and the other says No (which is what she did indirectly), the relationship is over. So who cares about her exam. Screw that crap. You are too busy looking out for her and screwing yourself. Sorry to be so blunt, but I been in a similar situation. Get your ring, Cancel your proposal, and go on with life. There are plenty of girls in the world that will love and respect you!

Answer 6

Just wait until after the exam. You have waited this long. And keep in mind even if she says yes there is always the engage- ment period and if doesn't feel right to either of you for whatever reason you should not go through with the wedding. Good Luck .

Answer 7

Give her one more day. Final exams are hard enough with out being pressured into saying if she wants to marry you.If you truly love her give her the time she needs to pass the test. She has her mind set on passing the test that is probably why you do not have an answer yet.

Answer 8

Actually I think the proposal timing was a horrible thing to do right before this exam. Everything she has been working for rides on this, and you are so selfish that you pile this on top of her. I say, that if she did not say yes right away, you guys are not on the same page. My suggestion, call her up and say, "It was so thoughtless of me to ask you to marry me during this most stressful time of your life. I am so sorry, please forgive me. Take the time you need to get a 100 on the test and then we can talk about where we are going in the future."

Answer 9

Taking exams in school should be no excuse NOT to answer your purposal. It sounds like shes not sure if she wants to spend the rest of her life with you. What you do with this situation is your choice. No one on here can tell you otherwise. I know if it was me asking someone to marry me and they told me I'd have to wait for an answer, I wouldnt be sticking around, cause that was pretty much my answer right there.

Answer 10

Why are you in such a hurry to get married? It sounds to me like you and your chosen one are quite young. You have some time - enjoy your relationship if it's going well. Things are not black in white in life, there are lots of shades of gray. If she has other things on her mind - be understanding.

On the other hand, if this is how you plan to conduct all your affairs, perhaps you will do her a favor by breaking it off as soon as possible. I wouldn't blame her for not wanting to get stuck with such a self-centered control freak anyway.