I like WOMEN, now what do I do?

Question

Im sick of holding it in but I guess its better than people knowing because Im a sensitive person and been through enough already. Although those that do know, feel that alot of people wouldnt have a problem with it and think that it would be hot, Im scared for those who might make me even more ashamed and feel like Im wrong when I shouldnt feel that way....point is, well question is what do I do, I want to pursue these feelings and am scared to go about meeting other women, the gay bar hasnt done much for me at all and it is the only local one in the area....im scared to approach girls in fear of rejection....I need help meeting some and breaking out of this shell. Any ideas? please help.

also how do you know if another girl is the same? what are some signs to look for?

thanks :)

please you must not know anything about God for saying what you just said. It's kind of rude to speak of someone in that manner that you dont know about. Grow up Amber. Your brainwashing yourself.

Answer 1

Hi , Ive been there and I know exactly what your going through right now.It takes time accepting yourself.And once you do, i do recommend you experience first, try to know what you want from a girl, what interests you.Try online chatting and get to know different people, that should give you a little hint what your interested in a woman.Don't just go for the first girl that gives herself to you.Yahoo has some cool chat rooms and you can also find lots of other websites online .Good Luck and don't let others put you down of who you are.

Answer 2

Hello, I originally typed this up when I was answering your 84% question, and I have copied and pasted it after discovering you deleted the question. I think I have an excellent answer:

If you want to have a girl all to yourself with no man involved at all, that's harder. Approaching a girl is always hard to do. But there is a way.

First off, get involved with gay/lesbian community groups, and join a bisexual support group. That way, you become comfortable being around people similar to you without the pressure of having to pick someone up. If you google your city or a nearby big city and lesbian and bisexual you should be able to find some groups.

I've found the best way to get dates is through friends - once you have friends who are lesbian or bi, you should plan to go out to a bar together, that way you don't go to a bar alone - nobody likes to go to bars alone, whether they're straight or gay. People who go to bars with friends tend to be more comfortable and therefore more approachable. Also, since you would now have friends at this point, you could ask them how to approach one of the girls that you are interested in.

Voila! There you have it. Now you know how to get a girl. That was easier to explain than I thought. :)

Now as for your new question, how do I know if the girl is the same? That can be hard sometimes, since not all bi/lesbian girls make it obvious. In recent years, the only way I've been able to know is by the interlocking two female symbols, whether as a tattoo, or earrings, or jewelry. Sometimes they will wear a rainbow-colored article of clothing. Sometimes having really short hair might be an obvious clue, or having a mullet (short hair in front, long in back). But nowadays it seems like a lot of straight women have short hair, so it's harder to really know. I still think my advice above is the way to go.

If worse comes to worse, there's always personal ads or myspace. Where there's a will, there's a way. :) I hope my information helps.

Answer 3

You will want to become comfortable in your own skin before getting involved with another gal. Otherwise, there could be a lot of awkwardness and confusion...and that wouldn't be fair to the other person.
It's not easy, but don't let what other people think rule how you live your life. At the end of all things, it is YOU that lived your life, no one else.

I may be biased, but years of observation has told me that a bar is not the best place to find a lover or 'significant other' (gay or straight).

You could look for listings for a nearby gay association, or look for a "Gay Pride" event to attend. There you may find information on social organizations, some very informal, where people get together and do stuff...find a group of people doing something your interested in...like hiking or museums or live music. I recommend just getting to know people on a social level...network.

As far as recognizing those 'signs' you spoke of, well, you will figure it out as you go along.

Answer 4

Why couldn't you talk about it with another gay woman? It sounds like, if you really mean that you're sick of living in your "closet", you're going to have to muster up some courage and get out there a little, if only to discuss this with other women who share the same preferences! It is the same with any of us who seek companionship: all the risks are out there and there's no guarrantee you'll be spared but at least try. You'll not get anywhere unless you do.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I'm Bi. I havn't exactly comeout of my closet yet either. Only a handful of people know about how i truly feel.
Don't go out searching if you're not ready. What are you gonna do once you find a nice lassie but aren't ready to show the world? Theres no point.
Trust me jsut wait till you're ready to face everyone with the truth and you'll feel great

Answer 7

I would suggest that you try one of the Adult friend finders sites, that way you will be guaranteed on chatting with other women who share your same interest. Good luck and do not let all the negative people influence you.

Answer 8

Check out the local upper end swingers club - the cheap clubs you want to avoid. They welcome single women and women make the rules. There are many women there who want to have sex with women. Some times its a threesome, but again - she who has the p***y makes the rules and yes means yes and no means no. It is the safest place to get your feet wet.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry that you are experiencing the feelings of isolation and frustration associated with same-sex attraction. It's not appropriate to engage in any extramarital sexual relations, whether homosexual or heterosexual.

Answer 10

try the internet! livejournal is a great place to meet good quality people.

and remember: lesbianism is yummy, and use dental dams.