after recently discovering secret emails between my husband and another woman. very flirty emails for about a week. i found them and they said such things as "nice legs" and "if i weren't married youd be in trouble" i have decided to stay and work on things. we have only been married for about 2 months! how can i trust him again without going crazy jealous over every little thing he does?
2006-12-04 08:52:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not that I think what he did was right, and yes he exercised bad judgement for doing it, but I find it sad that it is not acceptable for a man to compliment a woman on her appeal to us. Men are pretty simple. If they say "hey you're hot", usually that is all they mean.
To be more direct about your question, demand he be open to you in all aspects of his life. He just gave up any personal space you gave him and he will have to earn back every inch of it. No more strikes.
2006-12-04 09:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be jealous and mad at him. He married you to be with ONLY you. His actions need to stop right now. Tell him that. If he wants to keep doing this, then ask him why does he stay. It'll be hard for you to trust him again and trust is something thats not given, its earned. Mention that to him as well.
2006-12-04 09:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right after marraige i guy stil wants to know that he "still has it". i was only married 4 months and an ex was flirting with me. it made me deal with the pressures of married life to flirt and "blow off some steam". i think he's doing that. he won't ruin things, just like i didn't. it's just that right after a wedding the nerves rack up and that's a way to release some stress. is it right? NO! but......that's all it is, it doesn't mean anything it's WRONG, but harmless...
2006-12-04 08:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by JACK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its gonna take a lot of time and a lot of azz kissing on his part for forgiveness...ur still early in ur marriage and ur gonna have bumpy times ahead...i personally would put a password on the computer and not let him on till ur home and can keep an eye on him to a point...good luck to u hun sounds like ur gonna need it..
2006-12-04 08:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a smack (in the proverbial sense) and tell him that this is not acceptable - you are married.
This is PROBABLY (not sure though) relatively harmless but it will get worse if he lets it. He had better realize what he has.
2006-12-04 08:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he started pretty quick, that is not a good sign, however if you talk to him about it, tell him that it is disrespectful and you not going to put up with this crap, he maybe str8'n up and flight right. If not then don't waste tomuch time hoping just bounce.
2006-12-04 08:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet flings can be just as serious as real ones. Seek professional marriage counseling.
2006-12-04 08:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋