where do i find help starting a new career?

Question

I'm a wife and mother of a 3 year old. growing up I was taught women did'nt need to have jobs their place was in the home....blah-blah-blah...infact I was homeschool and was not allowed to finish my 12 grade year. I've contacted the "school" I attended and they are willing to let me finish my high school education and receive my high school diploma, problem is my husband doesn't want me to finish. but I'm determined! after I finish my high school course I only need 3 credits I want to start a career take a few course ..but I don't really have any intrest in any fields . where do I look or start it all is overwhelming at this point

Answer 1

It seems that you are dealing with two challenging issues. 1) Your husband doesn't want you to finish high school but finishing is important to you. 2) You don't know which direction you want to take for a career.

How you approach these two issues depends a little on how much time and money you have. I think you would benefit tremendously from a career counselor who could help you find out where your talents and interests lie. Most high schools and community colleges have such counselors on staff, and they might even be free of charge. When you get a little clearer about what direction you want to take and what kind of education and training it will take, you'll be in a better position to negotiate with your husband about the positive reasons for pursuing your education and career interests.

Secondly, I think it would be a good idea for you and your husband to get some counseling (from someone who is sympathetic with women who want to have a career in addition to being a mother). If it's a subject that's too touchy for the two of you to broach together, a counselor could help you talk about it without bringing in emotions that cloud the issue. A career counselor might even be able to suggest a couples counselor who works with couples on these issues.

It helps to get as much information as you can -- from friends, relatives, educational institutions, the Internet, and so on. The more you learn, the more confident you'll feel, and the better able you'll be to persuade your husband that the whole family will benefit from your continued educational efforts and a career that allows you to have some time for your family as well.

Good luck!