My wife has a sister who is 30, divorced, and she "lives" like a nomad with her lesbian lover and a gigantic black lab in their VW hippie bus. Shaved heads, incense, combat boots, the real deal. This rolling Woodstock festival is scheduled coming to our house in March or so.
They came for a week 2 years ago. This time they want to stay 4-6 weeks (why not they don't have anywhere else to go?). Their dog will ruin our house, terrorize our cat, cr!p everywhere etc. They are hard-core vegans who will complain every time anyone eats anything that's not soy-organic-whatever. They complain about our house is too big, we make too much money, our car burns too much gas. You know these people.
I am telling my wife one week max. Two if they board the dog somewhere. I am a perfectly polite host and I bend over backwards to cook meals everyone can be happy with.
I am prepared to go to the mat over this, as my wife won't stand up to her sister. Any suggestions on how to deal with her???
2006-12-04 08:41:58 · 18 answers · asked by fucose_man 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The good part is that they are vegan girls - about 90 pounds each, so if they are out of control they are easy to handle if they aren't armed.
2006-12-04 08:48:46 · update #1
By the way I am surprised and impressed no smarta$$ has suggested I sleep with these two lesbians. Trust me - none of any parties involved would be the slightest bit interested - they were have to have more hair on their heads than their armpits at least!!!
2006-12-04 08:58:53 · update #2
Take the cat, go on vacation! Hire a maid when you get home. Aaack!
2006-12-04 08:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by TLC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number 1 get on the phone right now and tell them they are more then welcome to come however they can only stay for a 1 because you had made plans to go away with your wife. You wanted it to be a suprise so the wife didn't know what you were planning.
When the sister in law start making comments about someone eating meat just turn to her and say Look I been over backwards to make sure that you have the type of food you like please don't be insulting to the others who don't have your vegan values. If it bothers you that much maybe you shouldn't visit.
When she says the house is too big. "yes we like it that way so we can have family visit."
You make to much money "Isn't it great we make enough money so we can keep our guest accustomed to their live style and still be able to afford to keep our life style?
If they want a ride any where tell them you know how they feel about the waste of fuel so it might be better if they walked.
Good luck on the sister-in-laws visit. Take your wife away it will be cheaper and less of an imposition then having them there for 6 weeks.
2006-12-05 00:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have to agree with the other posters. If your wife can't set limits for your sister, you can do so. Tell them BEFORE they get there what the ground rules are, and maybe they will decide not to come.
If that's not practical, then either go out of town yourself, or stay in a hotel until they leave. Let your wife deal with the kooks. Let her clean up after the dog, and the veggans and maybe she'll grow a backbone.
I know it's hard to say NO to family, but you have your own life, space and house and they are beyond rude to impose on you.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 18:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Countess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep reminding your wife of how miserable you all were last time the lesbos came to town.
Your wife won't stand up to her sister, but you seem to be having a hard time standing up to your wife, and I understand that a lot of it is because you don't want to rock the boat. We all make concessions to keep our loved ones happy.
But this, THIS is a hard situation. I would say, no more than a two week visit, and if they want to keep their dog with them then they have to sleep in the hippie VW bus, not in your house, and the dog can NEVER come in the house.
And unless they are paying for the food, they don't have room to b***h because it isn't vegan. Tell them they can have vegan food if they pay for it and prepare it, and you will gladly do the dishes afterwards. Vegan food isn't always disgusting, but it's just not for everybody.
And if they have a problem with the size of your house and how much money you make, tell them they are welcome to leave and not come back. Your wife will probably throw a hissy fit, but you need to remind her that you do deserve respect in your own home, and when they insult you, they insult your wife too.
OMIGOD! I just thought of something. I know you said it will be March when they come, but keep playing National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation over and over and over again. Any movie with a seriously disfunctional family would do, but seeing as how this one takes place at Christmas, you would totally have them scratching their bald heads, and it would drive them crazy and they would probably leave early.
2006-12-04 17:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this sounds like a flat out nightmare. Also sounds like they are very ungrateful guests. Well, since your wife won't stand up to her you must immediately. He sister sounds very selfish, wanting to stay 4-6 weeks is out of order. I'd say your only allowing her to stay a week is fair. Tell her that right out front. Then add what you drive, own, or what you do is how you live, and if they can't deal with it they have no business staying under your roof. If they can't respect your house they have no business being in it. I wouldn't let the dog in the house at all. Tell them that. This way they'll think it's inhumane and won't want to stay for very long. Good luck with this drain on society.
2006-12-04 16:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yikes! no wonder you have such a poor outlook on living naturally! I understand them wanting to express there views, but they need to understand that you chose to live your life the way you chose to live it, as they do. I think that one week with the dog is reasonable, just remember that they are probably very sensitive and used to people hating them because of the way they live there lives. So be kind, Good luck.
2006-12-05 17:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Brandielion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to mention you sound like a great husband and your wife should stick by your side on this.
She should support how you feel, especially since this sounds like you have more than a good point.
Speak with your wife calmy and have her speak with her sister, who she should tell that she is more than welcome to come visit, however you wish for her to respect your home, the cat, and that you wouldn't mind if she stayed for the maximum time of two weeks.
goodluck with woodstock
2006-12-04 16:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG, good luck to you! What a rude guest. Even family should behave properly when visiting. Those two sound like a nightmare! I'm sorry, I have no advice except to go on your own vacation(!)
2006-12-04 16:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by Didi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) one week max 2) whatever your cooking for dinner is dinner sks for them. 3) if it gets ugly tell them there going to hell cuz there lesbo's 4) plz document this and post this on internet cuz this will be funny 5) lock out the dog 6) say good bye after a week./
2006-12-04 16:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by question man 911 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your ideas seem reasonable. A guest shouldn't expect a host to care for their pet for weeks. I don't see why you and your family should put up with her sister and her pal for weeks. I wouldn't. Let them visit for a week, and move on.
2006-12-04 17:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋