He is upset because we got divorced and I want nothing to do with him, because he was abusive to me in our marriage. I don't even talk to him on the phone when he calls to talk to our six year old daughter. This not only hurts me but her as well.
2006-12-04 08:41:52 · 6 answers · asked by NEE-NEE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call a lawyer. You need to file charges of false reporting on him. Be sure to document all contact, etc with him. Every call , or anything, from him or DSS,
2006-12-04 08:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DSS is not harassing you... although it certainly must seem that way. They can actually be a strong supporter once they investigate and have a clear understanding of the situation, especially if he starts dragging you into court for things.
My ex never called DSS. He got his lover to call and make "an anonymous" report. I realized that the "facts" must have come from someone who didn't really know us... so as I reasoned through it, I said the woman's name and the DSS worker flushed and thumbed through her papers. I said "Oh my gosh... she's the one who called..."
Be pro-active. Go to Juvenile and Domestic Relations Court and request an Order of Protection based on the abuse during the marriage and his current harassment of you. That way the judge will have the facts of his behavior and you can present all that documention to DSS as well.
DSS will have to do an assessment each time he calls. It's the law. But eventually they'll get the picture that you're not the problem... HE is.
Best to you...
2006-12-04 08:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sue him for harassment and slander. Sooner or later hopefully DSS will get the picture and give up on him. In the mean time,just inform them that you welcome their investigation of you and that you want a copy of their report to use in court against your ex when you take him to court for defamation of character. If you have nothing to hide then you have nothing to fear. Now its very important that you keep an accurate record of any contact you have with him, to prove your case. This may be the only way he will ever understand and stop. Good luck
2006-12-04 08:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him charged with filing a false report.You need to do something official to counteract his accusations before some idiot at DSS believes his lies and takes your kid.File harassment charges if you have to.Find out from your local legal aid office what your options are.
2006-12-04 09:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words
HIT MAN
I know it sounds good but it would be all bad so PLEASE do do that.
As far as your question, I feel ya. I'm in a relationship and my girlfriends ex husband is a LOW LIFE ( and i use that word because yahoo will BLOCK anything else i try to type) And there is nothing that can be done till her kids are 18.
And i really hate to tell you this because it will make you feel helpless and i am by no means try to do that but You are in this till she is 18. Sorry.
And before you take the advice of all these people to file charges....Just remember You little girl will ask " WHERE IS DAD?" and you say " I PUT HIM IN JAIL"
Yea Its not a WIN WIN. SO PLEASE DONT LISTEN TO THEM.
we could have had her EX thrown in jail for not paying money that he was suspost to pay in the devorce but if we did that the kids would BE PISSED and hate us for getting their dad in jail.
2006-12-04 08:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by remailer000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell DSS that you want to see the proof and evidence if any that they have against you...when you get that..showing you are not in the wrong..and that he is the accuser... take it back through the court systems and file slander/harrassment charges.
2006-12-04 08:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋