I recently started sending a female very flirty emails, suggesting iw as intereted in her. this went on for about a week. my wife found them and is very mad and feels betayed, how can i convince her that this was a one time thing? i love her. she doesn't trust me anymore. what should i do?
2006-12-04 08:37:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You got caught having a relationship, sexual in nature, by your wife. Now, you want some magic answer to get her to trust you. Would YOU trust your wife IF you had caught her doing exactly what you got caught doing? Buddy, you destroyed her trust. If and when you are trusted again, is a question nobody can answer. But, it'll be a loooonnnng time. This IS way playing silly games is so bad. Trust is easy to lose, tough to regain.
2006-12-04 10:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off you need to step your game up with the e-mails meaning send and delete immediately. A better answer is to leave it alone all together. As far as your wife, you need to open all your e-mail in front of her, give her all your passwords and be done with it, then she can check behind you when ever she feels the need. After a few months of that she will start to trust you again.
2006-12-04 16:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you. I believe you love your wife. You have to regain her trust by showing practical deeds. You can have a professional help too to explain for both of you more about sexuality and phantasms that has nothing to do with your love to your wife.
You can work up this situation to the couple favour by understanding more each others desires.
2006-12-04 16:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by ramine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your foot outta your mouth and realize that if you want your trust back you're going to put a lot of effort to show your wife that you love her. Not just telling her. SHOWING HER.
If she decides she still doesn't trust you - then you're screwed, sorry. We only get one chance in life. Once you've made that choice there is no going back. Deal w/ your mistake.
2006-12-04 16:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u betrayed her trust by sending another woman "flirty" emails...if ur married u shouldnt be telling anyone other than ur wife that u are interested in her...how would u like it if ur wife was the one sending another male "flirty" emails...just remember what comes around goes around
2006-12-04 16:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has all reasons to feel the way she does. Trust that formed the relation in the beginning, now has turned to betrayal. What are you going to do!? "Go Figure!"
2006-12-04 16:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lost her trust. trust is very important in a relationship. there is nothing you can do about that. its going to be very hard for her to get over it. I've been there. good luck.
2006-12-04 17:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you screwed up. She has every right to own you now. Tell her you are sorry, and that you will comply with any request she has from knowing all your email passwords, to seeing your cellphone on request, to checking up on your whereabouts. Dude, you screwed up.
2006-12-04 16:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should first turn off that computer , if it is too incouraging for you. she will never trust you around another computer again. so you could always sell your computer an show her your promise is good.
2006-12-04 16:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are selfish and immature. You dont deserve a nice , sweet wife. She is hot.
2006-12-04 16:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋