I saw my auto mechanic, and he is a hunk! Talk about chiseled body, glistening biceps, soft voice--if he asked me, I would jump in with him---and do it under the car!!
Am I wrong to have these thoughts. My husband loves me very much, gives me all kinds of gifts all the time; a friend told me she went through this slump before, and she had a sexual affair that lasted 3 months, and now she is back madly passionate about her husband.
2006-12-04 08:27:19 · 25 answers · asked by paanbahar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope. Just did it this week and after reading all the responses to your emails, I freaked. What happened was basically I realized it was a big HUGE freakin mistake. That I love LOVE love my husband with all my heart and that there is NO ONE or NO thing ever gonna take his place. So I had to tell my husband. I did so tonight. It was a long night, but I wanted to be honest and I was brutally honest. Even about the things leading me to that point. He sat there with a plastic haner in his hand and kept squeezing it. He said your my wife I have to forgive you, I love you. That was the worst. He said he was disappointed in me. Let me also tell you that it is a selfish thing to do and I do feel horrible and disgusting and selfish, stupid, mean, and lousy about it all. Mine was a short thing. My husband kneeled to the ground and prayed for God to bring us back stronger than before. I don't know if I will ever forgive myself. I just pray to God that I will. I am a lowlife scum of the earth right now. I want you to hear this So you don't do this. Please PLEASE do not do it. I could still lose my husband. He could wake up tomorrow or a weak from now and realize that he can't trust me anymore. One thing- he can. He can because I would NEVER NEVER NEVER do that again. Its so not worth loosing your spouse or your dignity
2006-12-04 13:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by momof2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating can never be the solution. You got your ovaries in an uproar and your emotions are out of control. You lost the passion for your husband for other reasons. You have to be woman enough to seek out those reasons. Just because your friend thought it worked for her it doesn't make it right. What happens if you do the same thing and all of a sudden, you pregnant. It wouldn't take much for the hubby to figure that out. Take a deep breath and jump back into your marriage and fix the problem. People will respect you more, and you will too.
2006-12-04 10:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because your friend did it in got away with it, don't mean u will. want your friend not telling you the whole truth. she didn't feel dirty inside or guilty? affair don't make things better. it raising all kinds of thoughts in your head. all your feeling is the 5yr. inch. it's normal and it's normal for your husband to feel the same way. after 5yrs things slow down. but if you look down deep in side your soul you probably really love your husband. and if it's about the sex? girl you need to start doing things different with your husband every man likes a freak in the bedroom. you sound like you have a good husband and why ruin that because of these feelings and thoughts you can prey on those thoughts and ask God to take them away. it's the devil missing with your head. you need to read the proper care of feeding of husbands and ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger
2006-12-04 08:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Your husband loves you. MAYBE HER HUSBAND DOESN'T mind her coming back after having an affair for three months,but do you know YOUR husband?
He would never see you the same,if you did that,don't risk your marriage for some fickled idea of "re-kindling passion". If you do that,why not have both you and your husband,create an open relationship,like swingers,that way you both can be fullfilled by others and re-kindle your love that way,never let your spouse be left out,creates distance.
2006-12-04 08:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it not a good idea at all. Affairs, cause nothing but heartache, and devastation. Its deceitful. Imagine if your husband did the same to you. Your husband loves you. Find other ways to ignite the passion in your marriage. They are there if you are willing to look.
2006-12-04 08:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so twisted. Yeah great idea. Wow, what a head case. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I bet it would really turn you on to find out your husband is banging another woman. The good part is, when you start the divorce your friend will likely have all the info you need on that too. What a joke.
2006-12-04 08:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have an affair if you want to risk losing him. If I were you I would find other ways to spice up your intimate relationship. The bank of fidelity and trust is a strict bank, if you make a deposit somewhere else your account will be closed and sometimes it's forever!
2006-12-04 08:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How is screwing someone else working on bettering your marriage again? Um, only an insane person would think that, Yea that passion your friend is feeling? it's call GUILT. And if he knows he needs help. Want to work on your marriage? get professional help, want to screw around and are trying to find an excuse? There is none..grow up.
2006-12-04 08:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How the hell can sex with someone else help your marriage??? This is a cop out to justify you cheating. Make whatever excuse you want but when he leaves for the 2007 model secretary, remember the word KARMA!
2006-12-04 08:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you think seeing someone else is going to rekindle your marriage than you have no morals at all and you do not need to be married and your good husband does not need that he deserves better. Tell him how you feel and you both work on it if you want to stay married to him.
2006-12-04 08:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by tiger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋