im 14 and going 2 have a baby wht should i do?

Question

i havnt told my parents yet wht should i say and should i get an abortion or keep my babie

Answer 1

You obviously aren't ready to have a child if you are asking for advice through Yahoo Answers. My advice to you is to tell your parents, let them know that you do not feel you are ready to raise a child, being that you are still a child yourself. Abortion is murder. The only time I agree with abortion is when a pregnancy is life-threatening or a result of rape. There are tons of wonderful couples that want a child but are unable - give the child up for adoption.

Answer 2

That's pretty scary that you're only 14 and in this situation....I would look at all the pros and cons of getting an abortion or keeping a baby at 14....

Abortion -
Yes, you terminate the pregnancy but you should NOT be looking at this like a birth control method. There is alot of mental anguish when you go through an abortion....I haven't had one myself but had a friend that did...she went through guilt, depression, anger, etc.

Keeping the baby -
This will affect you in ways that you can't even comprehend yet. I am 29 and my husband and I already have a hard enough time with our 1.5 year old. - very tiring....I am not even a working mom either....I am a full time mom
Keeping the baby - can you provide for it? how are you going to make money? how are you going to go to school? how are you going to find a job when you aren't even allowed to get a work permit yet?
Give the baby up for adoption - yes there are many couples who are looking to adopt a baby but you won't know your baby - you'll know that there's a part of you out there somewhere but you won't know if he/she is being well taken care of or abused etc. I know that the orphanages check on the parents prior to sending the children to them but I have an aunt that almost adopted a girl and it was quite sad because the story was basically that she spent her whole childhood (0-18 yrs old) in and out of homes waiting for someone to adopt her. She went to I think 5-6 homes and eventually was adopted by her social worker....she was in 2 physically abusive homes and had major issues because of this (stealing) and she mentally blocked her whole childhood and doesn't remember before age 12. My uncle inquired about her maybe about 10 years after they had her in their house .

You also need to go to the doctors to make sure that both you and your baby are healthy if you decide to keep the baby. No one on this can tell you what to do - we are a bunch of random strangers all over the world....a bit scary to think that you would actually take advice from someone here.

You are not mature enough to have a baby and you shouldn't be having sex yet anyways....you're only 14!!!! There is so much more to life than sex....please talk to your parents and as a family you can decide what to do - I say family because you are also putting this on them too...you're not an adult yet, you have no money....you also need to talk to the father of the baby and let him know what's going on as well.

Answer 3

Well, your parents are going to have to find out so you might as well take a deep breath and get their help. Sometimes younger teens tell one parent and let that parent tell the second parent. Just start off with "I did something really stupid and now I really need your help."

I can't tell you to get an abortion, but no matter what the decision (abortion, give birth and keep, give birth and give for adoption), you will feel bad. You will feel really really bad. None of these are really pleasant options for a 14 year old.

You really can't keep a baby at age 14 unless you have adults willing to back this decision AND give practical help. There will be plenty of people to tell you to keep the baby but won't be around at 3 am to feed him/her. They won't be standing by when you realize you can't afford clothes or food. Basically you need adults to help you finish growing to adulthood with food, shelter and clothing and who are willing to provide that for a baby until you're educated enough and have a job that provides for the baby.

Don't beat yourself up right now. You need to make some serious decisions. You have can defer feeling stupid, ugly, bad, slutty or whatever for a couple of years. Meanwhile work on your problem.

Answer 4

Women who are married and prepared to have children pray they will have one.... your 14 and wondering what you should do? You should be playing with babies not having one to start with but that's too late. ABORTION IS NOT BIRTH CONTROL. Why don't you look into other options....like open adoption, where you can see and know whats going with your child but have parents that are ready to be parents. If you kept your baby at 14 your life would turn upside down so quickly your head would spin. What about school and going to college? Don't you want to have an education and a good job so you can provide things your child will need? Where is the father in this?? Have you talked to him? He needs his @ss kicked....

Answer 5

Sweet girl... please know that there are people out there who love you and will listen to you and help you through. Do your best to tell your parents what is happening to you and tell them from your heart. Do not kill your baby. Even when we make mistakes, God has a good plan for your life and the life of the baby. If you choose not to keep the little person who's coming, then there are soooo many lovely parents-to-be that are waiting for an adopted baby to call their own. Is there a Crisis Pregnancy center in your town? You could talk to a peer counselor who will help you consider the options available to you as well as let you know what kind of support you will need and where to get it. You could look in the phone book or online for the closest Crisis Pregnancy center near you. You can get through this with lots of love and support.

Answer 6

I cant imagine how you are feeling! I think that you should seriously concider adoption. There are so many people out there that would love your child and take good care of it. Do some soul searching before you tell your parents. Really think about what YOU want for your child. 14 is so young. Let me tell you as a mother of 2 young boys, that it is the hardest thing that I have ever done in my life. Think of your child and how it would want to be raised. Please dont abort it! Your parents do deserve to know what is going on, so tell them when you are ready!

Answer 7

sweetie i agree and disagree with some of the answers you received here on ya.. people she did not say how she became pregnet and you do not not know weather it was willing or forced upon her nor do you know if she was just talk into something by someone she trusted.. but in any case this is a family thing and you need to tell one of your parents if you feel you can not then how about a grandparent or a trusted aunt or uncle who would go to your parents with you and all you sit down and try to figure out what is best for both you and your baby

Answer 8

Well i think its really up to u... wud u really want to get ready of ur baby? or wud u rather keep him/her...I know u wud get into a lot of trouble seeing that ur only 14 n all but wud u really want to do that...
As for ur parents not knowin i guess u shud call them both and tell them u need to hav a serious tlk with them and then make sure they are sittin down and its only u and them in the room and say....look mom dad i know i'm a lil 2 young for this but i jus think i needed to tell u i've been sexually active...and wait for them to respond then u say i hav smthin else to tell u...i think i'm pregnant...then they mite hit the roof but hopefully ur parents will understand and wont b mad at u for too long and help support u and ur baby. u cud say it sumthing like dat but i dont know ur parents so i dont know if dat will work...u can try it on ur mom 1st n see how she reacts r if ur close wid ur dad u can do the same r mayb u and ur bf or the father of ur baby cud both sit n tell them whichever way u feel is best...and as for the the father of ur baby i hope will help u if u ask him to...anyways i wish u luck wid dat

Answer 9

If you are not prepare telling your parents or don't know how to tell them, you should talk to a school counselor she/he can help you figure out how to break the news to your parents. Also it can inform you of special programs available to help pregnant teenagers. You should keep the baby, it might be hard raising this baby in your own but you can do it. At the end you'll be glad w/ your decision.

Answer 10

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