Critical Thinking question....?

Question

I am not sure what to believe as far the three categories of child-parent attachment. My children definitely fall into the secure attachment group, but it is toward both my wife and I. I have 3 and 5 year old, I am extremely involved in there lives and extremely affectionate, due to how I was raised. I hate that it is always assumed that this is the mothers place; I don’t think there should be any distinction. My children come to me and my wife rather for a simple hug or a cup of juice. You sometimes see kids that are attached to there mother and throw a fit when they are not with them; that would break my heart as a father. The lecture just made me thinks about my children and how important it is that I continue to do my all to raise them. My children mean everything to me, so anytime I read something that makes me reflect on parenthood it is a positive.

Answer 1

I do think it is a common belief that the mother should do the raising...and when either parent hold that belief then it only stands to reason that the child will come to the mother when they want/need something. Nature/Nurture....there is always a debate about this, but I think you have proved that nurture is the reason your kids are attached to both parents, not just one. It is how you treat them that will determine the level of attachment. It is not just a given that their mother will be their main focus in life when they are born, it is how both parents raise their children. You are obviously a wonderful father and you have a great attitude. Their mother must have a similar attitude if she thinks the same way as you. So both of you are doing a great job with your children. I bet they feel very secure and happy knowing they can come to either parent knowing they will get the same level of care. Keep it up and maybe you can write your own parenting book and discredit all the myths and theories we hear about.

Answer 2

This is a great question ,you are a great dad and being involved as you are is a wongerful thing and never ever let anything or anyone tell you different I had the same up bringing and my children have too ......many dads do not feel this way and the mom just takes over, when sometimes the dad would love to be more involved...DADS are great role models TOO.....Bless you luv kara