One week ago, my husband came home with his younger cousin who is 25 years old and announced to me that he would be staying with us till he gets in rehab. He is on heroin and pain medication. He never kept a job and floats around and stays with different people. We have a baby boy and this guy had to sleep on our couch as we do not have a spare room. I was completely uncomfortable with him here. He would cook and leave a mess for me. He was always on my phone. I could not put my baby in his swing or playpen to watch Elmo because this guy is crashed on the couch. My husband went to work and I was alone with him. This guy did not make one call to get into a rehab. I am not working now as I have been ill with seizures and trying to get my epilepsy under control. Maybe I have no say because I am not bringing in money right now. I left and went to my brothers and then my husband told him to go but will not speak to me and says I was wrong. What do you think?
2006-12-04 07:25:33 · 3 answers · asked by kelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Are we related?? lol j/k My brother is the same as his cousin and when his friend kicked him out over the summer my brother kept hinting he needed a place to stay (my brother is an alcoholic and pill popper though). My daughter was 1 month old when this happened and I said to him if I knew he was sober and could stay that way then I'd let him stay until then, he can come over and visit only if he's showered and sober. He never comes to visit...his loss. I think in regards to your own health and safety along with your child's you're completely correct and your husband needs to get over it and realize that the safety and comfort of his family comes first. If you don't feel comfortable with it then he needs to back up and say, "You know if she's not comfortable then she's probably right so I need to fix this." Give him time and he'll cool down. He just wants to help his family out and the problem with people like his cousin and my brother is that noone can help them until they WANT help and they help themselves first! Best of luck...things will get better, hopefully!
2006-12-04 07:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have talked to you about it before bringing the guy home in the first place. You not making money has nothing to do with it. Its your house and I totally understand you being uncomfortable. Instead of leaving you should have made some ground rules with your husband about this situation.
2006-12-04 15:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember Husbands are TOTALLY different then Wifes, you'll never understand him totally and he'll never even try to understand you totally, it's MUCH easier to blame it on to you!!
2006-12-04 15:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋