Im 14 What do you do when you have a boyfreind but your parents dont think your ready for one?

Answer 1

Listen to your parents. No one is ready for a bf at 14 years old. Only crushes. I am 29 and just now ready for one.

Answer 2

it's always best to be honest with your parents. When you and your parents are all feeling calm, not rushed and have time to talk, speak to them about it. Be frank and honest with them. Ask them about their concerns. Listen to what they have to say. Maybe you can put their minds at rest. 14 year old girls are very vulnerable. Physically you are a woman but you don't yet have the life experience necessary to remain safe. It's a difficult time for parents (believe me I've done it...........twice!) Remember that they do have your best interests at heart. But it is possible that their fears are unfounded. Probably one of a parents biggest fears is that you will be forced into or persuaded to, have sex before you are ready. It may be that meeting your boyfriend will help aleviate this fear. The only way to know what your parents objections really are is to speak to them.

It is vitally important that you do not allow this conversation to become an argument. YOU MUST, keep you cool, whatever happens. If you find yourself becoming upset and distressed smile, tell them you need a bit of time to consider what they have said and ask if they would mind you resuming the talk later when you have had a chance to think about it. Leave it, try again when you are feeling better.

At the end of they day, you are still being protected by your parents whether you like it or not, so if you can't convince them you are ready then you have no choice but to listen to them, but if you can demonstrate that they have managed to bring up a mature, sensible young lady, perhaps they will be less worried about you having a romantic relationship.

Answer 3

First of all I think it is ok to have a b/f at 14.......i guess i can understand your parents thoughts on that.....but you could try and tell them that all you would do is like go to the movies and stuff.....maybe no car dates yet (even if he can drive) but you should just try to come up with some points to show them that you are responsible and are ready to have a b/f

Answer 4

Hope your dad don't find out. More over, if your sneaking around behind their back, they will find out no matter how much you try to hide it, and you will have lost their trust. You may not like it, but they have the say so of if and when you can date and have a boy friend. Try sitting down and talking to them, and let them know that you feel like your ready to date, and go from there. Remember though, if they say no, getting mad, throwing a fit, and screaming only assures them that your not ready and mature enough.

Answer 5

Let them meet him. Don't rush things you have your whole life ahead of you. I am the mother of a 15 year old, a 9 year old and an 8 year old. My son that is 15 has girls calling him all of the time. I think you teenagers are doing too much at a young age.

Answer 6

Either listen to your parents or have a discussion with them.

Are you and your boyfriend planning to have sex or are you two more of the hand holding and kissing types? For the guy during his teenage years, sex is wonderful. For most women, they don't really enjoy it at that age and are mostly doing it either to rebel against their parents or to keep a guy.

Don't do anything that you're uncomfortable with. You can always choose to do something later, but you cannot undo something that you've done.

Answer 7

My dear u r way too young to have a bf and be engaged in a relationship. Ur parents are right, they know what they are saying and they will always say things that are 4 ur best. remember they love u and wnt do thing that will hurt u. everything has its time. and u shuld prabably tell that to ur bf and if he really loves and care 4 u, he will wait for u!! all d best

Answer 8

At 14 you don't need to get serious with any boy. If he can't accept a friendship then he is no good for you. Your parents are right. enjoy your teen years they never come back once you become an adult.

Answer 9

Be a good girl!! Don’t mess around with him in any sexual way, show your parents that you are a responsible girl, and never be in a room alone with him, no matter what!! Once they see that you are responsible and not having sex with every guy you see then they will start to trust you and respect your choices more often.

Answer 10

Talk with your parents, have your parents talk to his parents and work out some type of plan that will allow you both to interactions at certain events or gatherings. Or you can do what every other girl your age does, lie to your parents.