Alright, I have been married almost seven years, to a husband that lies and cheats, but last night, he completely just picked up our daughter and threw her in her room on the floor, she wasnt minding he wanted her to clean her room, but he got mad at her, he says hes tired of us, and i say well what do you do want to do about it, he doesnt ever answer me at all, what does this mean?
2006-12-04 07:09:39 · 45 answers · asked by endless_eternity_forever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you have hit the seven year itch point, if you can get thru this point in your marriage you will be alright. It will take some work, this is one of the points in a marriage that people end up getting a divorce, its up to you, but I would recommend fighting to save what you have. If he wakes up and gets thru this you will eventually enjoy a great relationship out of it. A lot of people on here will tell you to leave him, but I would suggest thinking about it....do you still love him? Do you think he still loves you? Is it worth saving? Is there other problems in the marriage that could be affecting him, finances or stress? There are a lot of factors to consider. Since you have invested this much time I suggest thinking hard about it, and then catch him at a good time and try to talk calmly to him or suggest the two of you going to counseling. If you have been together for 7 years and he has not been abusive up to this point, then you know that is not him, there is something else bothering him, you need to find out what it is. He is frustrated and doesn't know how to react.....It's a tough situation, I was in the same one a long time ago myself, but we got thru it, I woke up to the fact that I was being a jerk. I would not trade what I have now for the world......Good luck!
2006-12-04 07:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by Scotty 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He wants you to say it, off your lips instead of his, makes it easier that way.
OK we all agree that your marriage needs help however
Violence on any member of the family is unacceptable and needs your up most attention You are there to protect your children from people that will hurt them but this should never happen at home please get some help you can't leave things like this
If he really threw the child very hard to the floor or anything like that surely you would have had the child checked over and informed the police if not why not?
And ps kids are too lazy these days they should be taught how to look after themselves a bit and help out
Helps the family not go thru certain other dramas.
Both the grown ups need to get it together
2006-12-04 14:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does this mean? Please let me make sure I understand you correctly...Your husband "threw" your daughter.... Any man that would tell his child he is tired of her and "throw her" is an abuser...You need to get out of there now...I'm sure he has abused you too since you are asking this question on Yahoo Answers. He has probably physically abused you too, but you are also the victim of his mental abuse. Leave, do you hear me? Do not stand by and allow this man to abuse your daughter again!!!! I don't know how hold your daughter is but you better keep her away from him. He will not change, so do not be one of the passive women that feels sorry for him and stays with him. Have a little self respect and respect for the child. Good Luck.
2006-12-04 07:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think your man is frustrated, and a very angry person. Why is he so angry? What on earth would make a man treat a child is such a terrible manner? Was he abused as a child? Quite frankly he needs a good slap! Besides that this whole senario appears to be very childish and it is time both of you grow up and stop acting like children throwing your toys including your children around! Whats with you guys? Can you not sit around the same fire and speak like mature people? I think you need help and fast, before someone gets killed out of selfishness!
Maybe he is driven to the point of no return from frustration and anger because he is so unhappy with life. Go speak to a pastor and seek help or its going to be at the expense of the child God gave to you to look after.
Dont wait any longer. Get help FAST!
2006-12-04 07:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bigger question what did you do when he threw your daughter to the floor? Sounds like an anger management problem and I would not be letting him discipline my daughter without counseling. Kids don't clean rooms fact of life, no reason to abuse your kid, just make her stay in it until its clean.
On your latter question why wait for someone else to decide your fate? You husband doesn't sound all that great and lying, cheating and abusing your daughters would be enough for any "responsible" woman to seek a divorce.
2006-12-04 07:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out before he hurts one of you! He sounds like he has a really bad temper and he is going to hurt your daughter or you! It's especially scary if he is then giving you the silent treatment. You don't know what he is thinking or what he is going to do next. Please, get you and your daughter's things together and leave - as soon as possible! Go to a family member's house or a friends house. Please - just leave. If you don't have any relatives around, there are shelters for women and children in your situation. Things will get better, but only if you take the first step and leave him! Be a bigger person than he is. Be the smarter person. Give your daughter a future!
2006-12-04 07:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by country girl 006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has been lying and cheating on you and now he is throwing your daughter? You need to leave him. If you don't want to do it for yourself, then do it for your daughter. Obviously he isn't happy and is lashing out on you and your daughter. You need to leave him immediately or face dire consequences. This man is no good and if you continue to stay with him he will either end up hurting you or your daughter. Think of the safety of your children and do what must be done A.S.A.P. Thank you.
2006-12-04 07:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you let someone throw your daughter into the floor and he is still alive or not in jail?!?!?!
People baffle me.
I wonder what's wrong with most women. You should have already called the police. Whether he IS her father or NOT no human being has the right to treat a child that way.
So, if you really love your child and understand you are the child's protector, you'll get off your butt and take care of it right now before it becomes worse.
2006-12-04 07:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to leave, with your daughter. Hes at the point to where hes being physically abusive and hes taking it out on your daughter. Leave now before things really get out of hand. Dont let you child be subjected to his violence. Call family or friends to help you get out if you have no where else to go.
2006-12-04 07:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it means you should get out of there while you can. I grew up with my dad treating my sisters and I like that. Then, my ex started drinking and treating my kids the same way. I wasn't going to put up with that for them. If he lies and cheats and treats you badly, you really should consider leaving. I know it's a hard thing to do, but you will be much better off in the long run.
2006-12-04 07:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by adrian9402 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋