who should be more angery??? me or my roomate? here is the story...
my roomate was seeing a man from work. we all went out drinking. all went back ot our apt. the guy and her went at it like rabbits and i went to bed ( alone) to wake up with him fondling me. she walked in my room yelled at me and walked away.
she feels that she is the ultimate in hurt thinking i was doing sdomething with him, i am hurt for the fact he came in to me room and did that to me.... i told him mnay times ar the bar in frront of her that i would NOT do anything with him.
so who has the right to be more hurt????
2006-12-04 07:07:10 · 19 answers · asked by exmunchkin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Did you explain the situation to her?
I'd get the guy arrested for good measure!
2006-12-04 07:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is angry at you because she is not accepting the fact that you had no choice in this, that you woke up to find this man in yor room.
Have you made that clear to her??
If you have explained yourself fully to her, there's nothing else you can do, except hope she will come around and realise you are telling the truth and this man is scum.
Unless u woke to find this man fondling u and then continued with full consent to make out with him or whatever, in which case you are in the wrong (even if he started it) and you owe her an apology.
but if that wasn't the case: she probably likes the guy and doesn't want to believe that he take advantage of u when u were sleeping. so she probably just needs some time.
good luck
2006-12-04 07:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ambience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame your room mate for feeling hurt but , you should feel angry. You should have given him a good kick in the jewels and called the cops.
Nothing would be more maddening than to wake up to find someone feeling you up. Perve apparently hasn't any self confidence or, is practiceing for a future space available in jail/prison. Talk with your friend.
2006-12-04 07:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by ippi1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can see how it looked to her, so what you have to do is sit down and tell her that look you are my friend under no circumstances would you ever make a play for her boy friend no matter how desperate you are and that he entered your room and you need to get rid of him, and also that by him coming into your room and and touch you, that, that constitutes rape and that's what he was doing and if I were you i would get out if she is going to keep seeing this pervert, also get a lock for your bed room.
2006-12-04 07:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by happyeverafter48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not have been in your room. Get a lock for your door and use it when you go to sleep if you want to make sure that this never happens again...alternatively, move if this is the quality of man that she's bringing home.
Your friend is welcome to be pissed at the guy, but has no leg to stand on regarding you. She brought some loser home and he chose to be a sleaze. I'd be pissed that her guest had the poor manners to invade my privacy and molest me.
2006-12-04 07:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by threelucy2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think looking at it from who has the right to be hurt and angry will get you anywhere. you need to sit down calmly and listen to each other. so you can understand. you need to realize that letting drunk men inot your house is a problem. that drinking is a problem. forget about rights and talk about your feelings. make a plan for preventing this from happening, like no drunk men in the house, or lock your door while you sleep etc.
2006-12-04 07:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that she is hurt, but if she would have listened the night before she would have known u didnt want anything with this guy. It was wrong of him to pride in on u like he did. i understand u are hurt and im sure u are more than she is by all means of this. go and talk with her
2006-12-04 07:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no question about it. You didnt do anything and she need to understand that. if you have tried to explain and she wont listen then she has put this guy on a throne where he doesnt belong and there is nothing much to do but wait until she discovers the scum he is with time
2006-12-04 07:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be pissed, you should tell her exactly what happened and if she doesn't believe you that is to bad for her you know what the truth is. Next time you see the sleaze bag give him a swift kick in the beans make sure you bring him to his knees!
2006-12-04 07:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should go on jerry springer to find out, LOL j/k, no i think u should be more hurt at the fact that she'd think that of you when obviously you were doing nothing wrong, but u both should be adult about it and TALK about it instead of throwing accusations around, ur both hurt, end of story
2006-12-04 07:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Kollege Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋