my exgirlfriend and i still hook up even though we arent dating but one time she got drunk and kissed my best friend while i was aout of town should i be pissed at her him or both should i still be there friend i dotn know what to do
2006-12-04 06:54:48 · 26 answers · asked by MGR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you aren't dating so honestly there is not a whole lot you can say about it....sorry hun you can't have your cake and eat it too!
2006-12-04 06:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is some situation but here is the deal, Consider these facts.. How much do you care for this girl? She is your ex.. even though you guys still hook up sometimes.. How drunk was she when she kissed your best friend? If they didn't do anything else then it shouldn't be too big of a deal .She might not of even known she was doing it, and if she did what was her reason? Maybe she felt alone and was seeking compassion in theclosest place around.. You shoul be thankful it didn't get any farther than that.. I understand your mad and you probably will be for a while if you truely care for her but find out if she still feels the same for you and if there is a possibility of making things work agagin
2006-12-04 15:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by delila84 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she's your EX, get over it. even if you still 'hook up' occasionally, there's no real ties that bind you. you're not in a committed relationship. however, the fact you're pissed she kissed your friend says a lot. do you still have feelings for her? sounds to me you're jealous. maybe you don't exactly love her, but in a way you feel like you own her and don't want to share her w/ others??? or do you have genuine feelings for her?
if so, how can you possibly have genuine feelings for an alchy? not only does she drink, but she sees nothing wrong in 'hooking up' w/ a man who isn't committed to her, anymore (if he ever was). plus she goes around 'hooking up' w/ several men at a time. what seems to be the attraction?
i don't see why it bothers you that she kissed your friend. since you 2 aren't in a committed loving relationship anymore, what she does w/ your friend or other men shouldn't matter to you.
if you broke up, there must have been a reason. if you couldn't be w/ her when you were dating, then what makes it so easy to be w/ her now that you're not dating? is she a better person now?
you have no reason to be mad at either of them. if you are, ask yourself why. be truthful w/ yourself. are you jealous? do you still love her? what what? work it out before you go picking any fights!!! good luck.
2006-12-04 15:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, who in the hell considers kissing "hooking up"? You obviously don't because you say you and your ex still "hook up" and I am sure you don't mean just kissing. So why are you trying to make this your best friends fault, when all he did was kiss your ex? Think before you ask. Even though this is the correct answer, you will not award me with best answer.
2006-12-04 14:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. How long were you in the relationship? Was it serious? Did you break up mutually?
The rule of thumb is that friends should not hook up with a friends ex without prior permission, first. It is the proper and respectful thing to do. However, if you were not serious with the girl, then it is any mans game and he is entitled to do what he wishes.
If you are hurt about this, you need to TACTFULLY discuss it with both of them before it goes any further. This is not something worth losing friendships over. Trust me, I have experience. You just have to be honest with them about your feelings.
2006-12-04 15:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look, pal, she's either Yours, or Not... If you aren't "together", but you get angry, then she has power over you and you've given her a place of authority in your mind that she doesn't merit... Allow your friend to get some lovin if he can, and don't sweat it... The really wrong thing here is that you were ever "let in" on the secret... Someone is not considering your feelings in telling you about it. If they feel guilty, and are burdening you with it, then you should be doubly offended... They are no friend to you if they dump it on you and skip happily away! Don't be so desparate.... Improve yourself, build a castle, and find a queen... Those two aren't worth the pain you're feeling! Regardless, take them for what they are to you, and BE HONEST about your feelings back to them.
2006-12-04 15:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by GeoffHubbard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
F the both of them. You don't need freinds that are going to do ish like that behind your back.
If they came up and told you to your face this is what happend then be pissed but don't disown them completely. Just kind of not hang out with them for a while. But if you had to find out from someone else and then bring it to them. God knows what else they've been hiding from you and you don't need that kind of stress in your life man. Be done with the both of them.
2006-12-04 15:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset but if it hasn't gone any futher that one druken kiss than no worries. And if your getting pissed over an x you still hook up with maybe you should see about getting back into that relationship?
2006-12-04 14:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by Angel R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, it happens. unfortunately, i just made out with my best friend's ex-boyfriend. I'm really sorry it happened, and I barely remember. Getting drunk makes you do really stupid things. It's only kissing, be happy for that. I just spend the last 2 days apologising, so I'd know that it feels like crap to be that best friend. Please give your best some leeway, because getting plastered drunk alters your perception of what's right or wrong.
2006-12-04 14:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Basic rule: NEVER date/kiss/marry/sleep with your friend's partner, whether they're still together or not, no matter how long they've gone they're separate ways. He's not your best friend, he's not a friend in any sense of the word. We know he benefits from the relationship by gaining access to all your castoffs, but what's in it for you?
2006-12-04 15:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by Roberta 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be there friends but don't go out with the girl again even though people are drunk doesn't mean they don't know what there doing! she likes your friend or she would have asked where you were when she was drunk and then probably went to get more drinks cuz you wasn't there to hook up with if she was really your girl friend thats what she would have done.
2006-12-04 15:03:20 · answer #11 · answered by xjojox_wht_up 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋