Is it true that before you can get married you need to do counseling?

Answer 1

A lot of ministers like to do pre-marital counseling in order for them to marry you. The reason is that so many people go into marriage not knowing what to expect. Then they hit a bump on the road a year or two later and they head to divorce court thinking they're the only ones going through what they're going through. There are way too many divorces today. People don't take their vows and commitment serious. I believe, the more informed you are, the better the chances of your marriage surviving.

Answer 2

It depends on the church, the pastor and the state...I think counseling is the best thing to do....When I went to counseling, we had different assignments to do......learned new things and discovered somethings that I thought was fascinating..

Counseling was scary at first when I went because I did not know what to expect but after it was over, I wish I could go back....

I think the fear of counseling is that you may discover more than you want to know or reveal, he/she is not the one for you and if that is true, the Pastor will suggest additional counseling sessions, advise you need additional time to see if you two are right for each other or ask that you find someone else as he does not feel you should be married....

I also think that people fall in love and don't talk indepth about what they want, their expectations, children, who will handle all the finance or how bills will be paid, children, do you want kids or not and if so, how many....

I remember that by coincedence Oprah had a show that talked about the 100 questions, you need to ask your partner before you get married....They did a study on it and some people did not get married and actually seperated and realize they were not meant to be together...

Its your choice to go to counseling but I will advise anyone to go as it is better to go and make sure you know the real person or to know that you was about to make a mistake and that avoids the nasty Divorce and you becoming another statistic because you was in LALA land and did not face reality or invest in communication and knowing your partners thought process, life plans, how to handle finances and other things you need to know because marriage is a daily commitment, constant communication, prayer and continued success and struggles, hert aches and pain, giving guidance, and finding ways to keep that fire burning FOREVER....

Answer 3

Some churches require it; it depends on your religion and the rules of the church where you're getting married. Even if you don't have to, I highly recommend pre-marriage counseling. With the divorce rate as high as it is, it doesn't hurt to get a little counseling to find out where some of the challenges may be in your relationship. My wife and I took a pre-marriage test given by the catholic church and we met with the priest before hand and even had 2 one-hour sessions with a marriage therapist. I really recommend it because they will get you to think about things you don't have to when you're merely dating, such as finances and having in-laws come to live if/when they're ill. Good luck!

Answer 4

I did not even comprehend they'd that. Im certain its does not hurt and if it does then its higher than a divorce. The closest factor I heard of was once in this film...I don't recollect the identify of it. It stared mandy moore and robert williams I consider that's his name. Good in the film, she wanted to get married by means of the preist however they needed to move a premarital class on the church earlier than they would get married...All of the couples that handed had been married ceaselessly. However that's just a film. Try asking a church or some thing if they've stuff like this

Answer 5

If you're Catholic, that is usually the case. But regardless, it isn't a bad idea. Couseling is not just for a relationship that is in trouble. In fact most couselors prefer to see a couple that hasn't gotten to the critical point because that way they can help the couple to get to know each other better before taking the step into marriage...

Answer 6

I think the catholic religion insists on marraige couselling before they will perform the ceremony. Which makes absolutely no sense as you receive the counselling from an unmarried, celibate priest!

Answer 7

If you are Catholic what you are referring to or asking about is a process called "Pre-Cana", which dates back to the days of Jesus. Cana is Latin for marraige, and prior to marraige a couple would seek out advice from a priest. In the Roman Catholic church it is still done today. My wife and I did it. It was two sessions of about 1.5 hours each. there were multiple couples, our Priest gave a speech about the importance of marraige, and then we were off and ready to go! I think it's important to stick the rituals that go back 2,000 years.........so definitely ask your church and do it!

Answer 8

DO you? I think some religions make people get counseled prior to getting married .

Answer 9

I think there are a few religions that require this. Catholics, Lutherans... not sure who else.

It's a great idea... but it's not "required". You can always have a judge marry you.

Answer 10

It's not a requirement, but with a more than 50% divorce rate, I think it's a good idea.