I am about to be a mommy for the first time by the love of my life and yes I know he loves me too. We are both fairly young and we both work, but we aren't exactly finacially ready and he wants to support me totally. We aren't married and I am not comfortable letting go of both my jobs although I have left one. Is the way I'm feeling wrong?
2006-12-04 06:45:45 · 12 answers · asked by Tiff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, you are feeling "responsible" which is not a bad thing. You have every right to feel like you need to prepare for the arrival of your new child. I think it's admirable that he is willing to support you fully, but you need to think realistically about the expenses you'll be encountering.
2006-12-04 06:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not, there is nothing wrong with feeling uncomfortable about changing the lifestyle you've had for a while, but having a baby is about thinking of what is best for the baby and you. If you think that having a job will work out better then stay with your job and if you decide to leave if you feel its best then go ahead. As long as the decision is yours and is for the best. Your husband has to understand that you too have a life and should respect your decision.
2006-12-04 06:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by JeWel in the MakE! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings ARE your boundaries. If you give up more than you feel you are actually comfortable with ,inside you will be angry and resentful. Try a compromise. Quit one job. Being pregnant does not mean you need to be idle. As you get farther along or after you have the baby you may change your mind. Tell him your not ready to give up both jobs yet. And tell him you love him for caring.
2006-12-04 06:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO? you are doing the right thing , my parent's had always told me that never let anyone think they are taking care of you because they will, but that they can pull the rug right up from under you. I'm sure you understand what I'm saying ,just as long as GOD give you a portion of health and strength use it know that you can hold your own. Anyone can say I love you, not saying he don't which you both all the happiness in the world and a healthy baby. LOL
2006-12-04 06:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 1 F/T job and 2 P/T jobs when I met my hubby.... I still work them just because it is an independant thing with me. But if you are not financially ok for a baby- then work what you can until you guys get in a better spot. NO you are just doing what would benefit your family better so you can feel like this.
2006-12-04 06:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by DM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly natural. Your source of income signifies your independence. If you don't want to leave then just tell your partner that you need something else to concentrate on besides what's going on at home. You're having a baby but that doesn't mean your life is over. Would he leave his job to be a stay at home dad while you work?
2006-12-04 06:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by Diet_smartie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. you're worried that if you leave your job, he'll run and never take care of you. Perfectly normal. You're also worried that if you have to become totally dependent on him, things will head south. I've been there, and that's usually the way it goes. Explain to him what you're feeling. If he's as great as you make him out to be, he'll understand. Good luck.
2006-12-04 06:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, it depends on your relationship with him to an extent. you're the only one who can know if he can actually support you or not. however, just to be catious and avoid any bad surprises, I suggest you keep one Job. you don't know what happens. tell him that he can support you, and that you're counting on him to do so, yet, you also want to keep something for life's bad surprises (life can be a real ***** sometimes). he loves you and he definitly will understand. but don't explain it with the (independece for women Crap) ... he's the father of the baby and he will have to share risponsibility in order to establish a healthy family.
My best wishes.
2006-12-04 06:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Maximus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they will have to hold your jobs for you, so don't worry about that. As far as him wanting to support you, i understand that you want to keep at least one, but I think that he is just trying to give you the time needed to bond with your child. You can't work all the time...i tihnk you are a smart girl.
2006-12-04 06:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so. if keeping a job is something you can draw strenght and security from right now then by all means keep it. i get a lot out of my job and my fiance would never ask me to leave it. just keep the communication lines open. and i hope you have a good pregnancy!
2006-12-04 06:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by d☻min☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋