Someone who helps...proclaims themselves as a child's father?

Question

My ex-fiance has been a thorn in my side lately. He and my daughter have been playing out as if he is her father behind my back. She is 13. Granite..he has helped us out...I got in a huge financial bind..and he allows us to stay at his home ..in our own rooms in a platonic relationship..and nothing weird sexually at all in this situation..I told him we are only here temporarily...we appreciate the help...I am glad she has him in her life..she needs more people to love her , than not. I am moving w/in a year...after my debts have been taken care of..I can't make it until then, financially. I work two jobs...he helps w/her care. I don't want to resume a relationship w/him...I asked him and her to not pertend or proclaim him as her father. I've put my foot down...however...I think that he thinks I am being unreasonible..and my daughter doesn't want to claim she has no father. (I am single..we don't know where her dad is...I've tried several times to find him)(shrug) comments?

Answer 1

EXPLAIN to your daughter this is only temporary cause she is going to be theone hurt in the long run. Tell him how is hurting her emotionally. I don't relly know what else you can do except get your own place and tell him to leave her alone.... R U SURE it's nothing more serious...U know?

Answer 2

certain, in the journey that they haven't any extra contact with their toddler. there's no excuse for a guy to unload his personal toddlers, no matter if he and the mummy detest one yet another. there are a kind of issues he can do to enable his toddler comprehend he remains loved. no matter if the mummy tries to save the youngster faraway from the daddy, there's no reason the daddy can not a minimum of do different following: -get a court docket order to implement visitation - deliver the youngster playing cards and up to date for birthday/Christmas, vacation journeys. If the mummy interferes, deliver the applications to grandparents to make confident the youngster receives them and is established with he remains loved. If that doesn't artwork, deliver them registered mail or through an lawyer. the youngster needs to understand they're nonetheless loved, nonetheless considered, and ought to nonetheless assume dad. - call the youngster on the phone, e mail with the youngster, facebook with the youngster - bypass to each and each and every of the youngster's activities, which include college performs, his football video games, his piano recitals - bypass to the college's open houses, meet the instructor nights, determine conferences. there's no way the mummy can stop this except there's a restraining order hostile to the *toddler* there are a kind of adult males right here who declare that the reason adult males do not see their toddlers is because the mummy prevents it. yet what i have listed above, the mummy can not stop. not except there's a restraining order. this is only a blanket excuse for forsaking your youngster to assert "the mummy is battling contact". Bull. If the guy is going with the help of the court docket gadget, and he makes an attempt to affix the youngster's existence, he can benefit this. As a toddler of this difficulty your self- replaced into there some thing battling your father from doing a minimum of distinct issues I listed above, as a fashion to maintain contact?

Answer 3

she is looking to him for a father figure. she needs that right now. My father left when i was 4, took my mother a couple years to find him, when she did we could only talk to him once a month. i did not see him till i was 17. he is deceased and i am now 39, i seen him 13 years ago for about 2 hours. we always had to call him or go see him, he never iniceated anything. i turned to someone else as a father figure and i would not trade those memories for anything. i loved him and still love him more than my own father. as long as he is willing and is a good father figure for her then let her have him. hopefully it will give her some happy lasting memories as well.

Answer 4

hello honey as long as your daughter is comfortable with calling your ex her dad and he obviously must love your daughter, then what's wrong . you said yourself that nothing is going on so please let the man love your daughter and stop it your feeding way to much into this happy holidays and good luck .