What would you do?

Question

i started dating this guy and its been great. we really talk and have fun together. but one day we were having sex and he slapped my azz and called me a b*i*t*c*h, i think of myself as a very masculine guy. so i didn't like being called that. what would you do? would you break up with him? or talk it out ,,my friends say guys don't change

Answer 1

some guys like to use word play in bed. if you don't think he was playing around, then that's really questioning your manhood and he has a powertrip. i suggest switching roles. i never had that being said with a slap on my *** but i would talk to him. if he really does care about you he will be sensitive to how you feel. good luck with that.

Answer 2

Hey!
It sounds like he is clueless to the fact that you were offended by his words. Has he done it again since then?
he may continue to do it UNLESS you tell him how it makes you feel. For some people- name calling is a turn on game of domination that they really get into. (I personally wouldn't like to be called someone's b*i*t*c*h, either!)
I wouldn't even consider throwing in the towel at this point, if you really care about the guy. This is so minimal and although it made you feel bad, it is an issue that could be resolved with a simple heart to heart conversation.
Good luck & don't give up
Oh, BTW- if your friends are truely friends, they should be giving you better advice... they should want to see you happy and not focus on such minor things. They should have told you to talk to the guy and try to fix things! :)

Answer 3

Hey FITBOY,

Thanks for your question. I would definitely advise you to talk it out with him - especially if the relationship has really been that great. His actions are not completely unusual for guys having sex...if it makes you uncomfortable, say so.

Every relationship will have things to talk out. If your friends say guys don't change - ask yourself, if this guy doesn't like something you're doing...would you be willing to change?

Answer 4

ooooh a little dirty talk. I was on a phone sex with a white boy and in the heat of passion the dawg called out give me that "N" d i c k. At first I was like the deer blinded by the car lights, then I got back in the passion and just took it as dirty talk. But that's me, it's all on how you feel.

Answer 5

I would talk to him first about it before breaking it off. Open communication about what feels good and what doesn't is important in one's sex life. If he doesn't accept the fact that you would rather he not do that then tell him you will have to call the relationship off.

Answer 6

I would do nothing...it's very easy to get caught up in the act of sex...into all kinds of things..that are not necessarily the same every time (ie It doesn't mean that he will behave like this again). If it continues then I would talk to him...He probably just thought you might enjoy it. Innocent until proven guilty?

Answer 7

Ask your self, "what would Barbara Stanwyck do?"

Seriously guy, if I recall you are not a kid, so speak up. Talk to him, and if he needs a little rough house and you don't want it, move on, you'd be doing both of you a favor.



And the answer to the question is: she would toss his body off the back of a train.

Answer 8

You mean to tell me you are having sex with someone that you are not comfortable TALKING with, not cool dude, not cool. For crying out loud tell the man it bothers you. If you can't tell him what you like and don't like you really should not be screwing.

Answer 9

I'd just tell him that's not cool with you.....but sandwich it between positives. For instance you could say, "You are a hot dude and I love it when you _________. But the other day when you slapped my booty I didn't care for it. I would rather you licked me on my ________."

It would sure work for me!

Answer 10

I think you should first talk it out. If, after that, he continues to disrespect you in that way, then consider breaking up with him.