I have this friend. One could say she is possibly my best friend, or ties for the front row. But, she has the worst case of loose-lip disease I have ever seen. She even talks about me when I am in the very next room. Strangely enough, I think she doesn't even think anything of it. I have sisters and they talk to each other about each other- and family does that. If you have a best friend, does that make it okay for them to talk amonst the other friends as sisters would? It bothers me even when sisters do it.
2006-12-04 06:02:15 · 11 answers · asked by answermaker96 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dear John R- I am kind of a shrinking violet with people, especially her. She has a very overpowering personality. I think that's why I was drawn to her as a friend. She also stands up for me sometimes. But, i know I should. I just know she would go all out. I don't like confrontations. I guess I just need to be careful what I say.
2006-12-04 06:18:18 · update #1
sweetemta- she does it in front of me, too. LOL. That's the worst. Sometimes it even seems like she is just faking being my friend...and then she does something that makes me take that back. I stay confused with her- is she really my friend- or is she not? I go back and forth in my head about it.
2006-12-04 06:20:05 · update #2
i would confront her about her loose tongue, some people do that to (they think) make them look good. But talking behind someone's back is a very shallow and immature way of expressing ones self. I have family that talk about me but they always do it in front of me, a sister of mine does it behind my back and it hurt my feelings, so i told her about it, i think she is jealous of me sometimes, which can happen with sisters, it is still wrong, i don't talk about my family or my friends that way. And i don't think it is ok for anyone ,,,just how i am. Oh and i would tell her if she was a true friend she would not talk about you to other people. Good luck with family and friend.
2006-12-04 06:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont konw how u can put up to it only because if she is talking about u behind ur back of something that u dont like well u should confront her about it because that isnt a friend. it doesnt matter if she was joking or not. is she even worrying about ur feelings. hell no she isnt cuz she wouldnt have started in the first place. and also if she is ur best friend tell her to talk ablout you in the same room u are. see if she has that big of a heart. and and if she does do it. do it back to her so that she can feel as bad as u do...
2006-12-04 14:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by rican mami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this can make it very hard to trust her. Have you tried to talk to her about it. Let her know that what she is doing is hurting you and that she could find herself without any friends if she keeps it up. also ask her how she would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and you talked about her all the time. Unfortunately I to know someone like her and have decided that I would not share anything of importance with her in case she decided to get loose-lipped, and yes it hurts when she does talk about me or any of her other so-called good friends, because I know she doesn't like it when someone talks about her.
2006-12-04 14:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you need to watch what you say to her. Always keep in the back in your mind that she has loose lips. Before telling her something big think of this, are you ok with your other friends, guys you like, and your family knowing this too?
2006-12-04 14:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation with my so called sis in law she is the same exact way and it really bothers me. If they have something to say they should say it to ur face. Lately Ive been confronting her if I heard she said something about me of course she denies it but it makes me feel a lil better about the whole situation.
2006-12-04 14:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't consider anyone who talks about me behind my back a friend. How do you feel comfortable even talking to her about personal issues? I'd be scared to death she's go running her mouth about it. That's not a friend.
2006-12-04 14:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were u i wdnt call her my friend cuz its jus not rite it cld get both of u in trouble beta talk t her abou it b4 its 2 l8
2006-12-04 14:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by QT4REEL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with her let her know that it hurts you. and if it is a problem she should say it to your face. and if she continues to do it she really wasn't your friend to begin with. cause a real friend would never do any thing to hurt u on purpose.
2006-12-04 14:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by blkdiva360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend exactly like that. i just try to ignore it. but it gets on my nerves alot. just tell her about it.
2006-12-04 14:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... friends don't talk about friends.... she is not Ur true friend.... does she tell U when other people talk about U....
2006-12-04 14:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋