2006-12-04 06:01:14 · 5 answers · asked by Celeste P 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Very much so. I often find myself bitting my lip to keep from hurting my best friend's feelings. She has five children. Four boys and one girl. One of the boys is absolutely the most kind hearted child I have ever met. The girl and the other two boys for the most part are very well behaved. The second oldest boy is absolutely the meanest child I have ever met. He purposely takes toys away from his younger brothers and sister. He beats the oldest child up constantly. He ignores his grandparents, mother, me, and our friends. I have been pushed to my limits with him several times because of how hateful he has been to them and my nieces. I have tried to correct him but to no avail. His mother has no control over him and he is nine. I shudder to think what he will be like at 16.
2006-12-04 06:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
personally, none of my friends have little children, and when they did, they made sure their kids were on their best behavior when over at my house. if your friends allow their children to do things in your presence that annoy you, then i dunno, they're not very good friends of yours. children need structure/discipline. although they may resist (it's only natural), deep down inside they crave it. kids don't 'understand' boundaries or limits. they don't get life. which is why they're kids and adults are adults. kids feel comforted and encouraged by guidance, b/c it makes them feel safe. they know a strict parent would never allow them to make harmful mistakes. and when they do make mistakes, they know their parents will support them and help them through their problems.
veering off track, i know. anyhow, if your friends' kids do unthinkable things and you find it annoying, just stop inviting your friends over. calling them on it will strain your friendship b/c if the parent knows his kid is out of line, he's embarrassed as it is. but if he thinks his kid isn't doing anything wrong, then bringing it to his attention will piss him off. in a way, we don't have the right to counsel anyone on anything unless asked. after all, your friends themselves arent children; they're adults, even if they don't act it sometimes!
if your friends' kids act out in public and you're enbarrassed by their actions, and feel uncomfortable around them or don't wish to be associated w/ that kind of child rearing or behavior, then it's time you stopped going out w/ these friends.
you don't have to mention it, just start declining their invites and stop inviting them, as well. try to find new friends who share the same values you do. it makes life a heckuva lot easier. good luck.
2006-12-04 14:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes Yes. Im sorry but some people do not know how to control their children. I find myself biting my lips many times, and the sad thing is it could be my own sisters kids,, lol
2006-12-04 14:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG YES! My friend amber stopped by with her son the other day at my work.... and he was into everything. He pulled apart my mini vacuum dumping all of the contents all over my office, and then I had made pumpkin bars for my co workers, and he took his plate and threw it all over the place....She didnt even scold him. CMON... If my kids ever do that.... They better expect to lose privelages and get publically yelled at!
2006-12-04 14:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yup especially kxu they don't listen to her even after she sends them to time out
2006-12-04 14:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋