i have been talking to this guy and somewhere along the way i fell in love and yesterday he got asked out by one of my friends. he doesnt like to like other people but deep down i think he likes her, and he told me that if i didnt want him 2 go out with her than he wouldnt i told him that both of them should think about it and he said no i want your decision and i just stood there and he told me to call him and tell him tomarrow and it is tommarrow and i dont want to feel bad but i love him and if he dates my friend i feel like i would not be abel to talk to him or my friend and i dont want that to happen!
2006-12-04 05:54:34 · 12 answers · asked by care_bear_sugar_princess_hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The worst thing you could ever do is to not tell someone how you feel about them and just expect them to know and make the right decision. Obviously your opinion counts enough for him to ask you for it and ask you how you feel about the situation. Don't be so hesitant about letting him know how you feel...it's better he know then to not know and then you wish you had told him later. Call him up and tell him that you are not trying to intrude but you'd like for him to know how you feel. Then tell him and let him know that you just needed to get it off your chest so you wouldn't regret not telling him later. You'll feel better for telling him.......
2006-12-04 06:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jontue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....If u really love him, then there should be no question. I think u already knwo the answer, cuz if u didn't, u wouldn't have posted this. I would tell him exactly how u feel, and say.. hey listen, I'm really beginning to fall for u and I would rather u not go out with my "friend". And say...if ur not feeling the same way about me, then just let me know now and I won't pursue this any further. And what kind of friend is she if she knows that ur talking to him? Why would she even consider asking him out? Not cool. I wouldn't even consider dating someone that my one of my friends has a crush on. I share everything, BUT my men.
2006-12-04 14:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you love this guy, you MUST tell him how you feel. You also should call and talk to your friend and tell her how you are feeling about this guy.
Always be true to yourself. Nothing ventured.....Nothing gained!
Don't let fear rule your life. Honestly, It sounds like this guy is wanting some type of affirmation from you that you really have feelings for him, since he said it's up to you. HE WANTS you to tell him that you only want him to be with you.....sounds like he needs you to let him know that you want him and want to be exclusive with him. If both of you are afraid to make the real first move.....then you'll both loose out on what you want and need!
Good Luck Honey! & God Bless!
2006-12-04 14:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, slow down and take a deep breath! (and stick a period in there somewhere!) you seem awfully young and a trifle immature, in my opinion. no offense, it's not necessarily a bad thing. being young and immature is natural; that's why people don't get wise until they're way older. experience is everything!
at any rate, since you guys have just been talking (i take it you never met in person) then i don't see the attraction. how do you even know he's a HE or that he is everything he says he is?
secondly, if he liked you, you'd know it b/c he'd call YOU. also, guys who like girls don't even consider going out w/ other girls. he must not like you THAT much if he agreed to go out w/ another girl.
also, what kind of guy is he, anyway? not very manly if a girl had to ask HIM out!
and, this other girl, you claim she is a friend of yours...what kind of friend would ask out a guy you claim you love?
here's the deal, if he isn't making this whole thing up about the other girl (which he may be!) to make you jealous or see your reaction (to see if you like him before he makes a move) and if he actually wants to go out w/ this other chick, then it's not up to you to tell him not to, no matter how you feel about him. if he wants to go out w/ her, he must see some potential.
but the fact he asked you to call him and give him YOUR decision makes me wonder whether she asked him out or whether he's pretending just to get a rise out of you, and see how you feel about him.
if he's trying to make you jealous, then don't give him another thought. stick to mature guys, who like you for you and don't play silly games.
if he has your number, he should be calling you. if he asked you to call him, he's a wuss. forget him. he should know by now how HE feels about YOU, and how you feel about him by your responses/actions. if he likes you, he'll ask you out. don't be his therapist. if he goes out w/ this other chick you call your friend, provided she knows you like him, F the both of them. good luck.
2006-12-04 14:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't control everything. Sometimes you just have to let life live itself. If he does pick your best friend, then be supportive, it will be hard, but would you rather he picked you and then was always thinking of your friend, possibly going behind your back to see her? If he wants to be with her, then let it happen and try your hardest to go on with your life and do things that make you happy. Maybe go out with someone else whom you thought was pretty cute, or go out with someone you would never date and give that a spin...you never know. It is going to suck if he does pick her, but it is his choice and not yours. Let him make his own choice and then stick with it. Don't pout and do something stupid, just get some space and do things that make you happy.
2006-12-04 14:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by pecksun8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry about this. Does your freind know that you like him? I think, as much as you dont want to - you should just let go and let them go out. You dont want him to continue to talk to you if you know he has the potential to still like other girls right?
Good luck
2006-12-04 13:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by njank99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt want her, he wants you...otherwise he wouldnt be asking for your permission. hes waiting for you to tell him how you feel, so go for it. if you dont, he'll end up dating your friend and then you have lost them both, by your own admission, so your not giving anything up by being honest with him
2006-12-04 14:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by danais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with how you are feeling. Tell him that if he wants to continue being friends and possibly more then you don't want him to date your friend.
2006-12-04 13:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darn right you're confused.
1. you can't be in love with him or the issue would be clear to you. you would tell him and that's that
2. it is highly unlikely you're in love with him from just talking to him.
If you are in love act on it, or just get out of their way.
2006-12-04 13:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its appear that u really love that person....if that boy want ur answer first so most probably theres a reason...mayb he is in love with u as well but doesn't want to tell u....just tell him ur feeling and ur frend as well... Sometimes u have to be frank in life
2006-12-04 14:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋