Ok,,I'd like to ask this question in a different catagory. Should we allow our children think it's ok to be gay, or go by what the bible says about homosexuality. And it being wrong. What would you do if your child was gay?
2006-12-04 05:27:40 · 33 answers · asked by Mother of 2 girls 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My babies are my babies no matter what happens.
I would love them even more for being honest, being able to come to me and for the Hell they will have to endure from born - again - bible - thumping Christians that think they have the right to judge everyone else in this life.
2006-12-04 05:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Chula 4 · 10⤊ 3⤋
Hmmm, what about "unconditional love"? Being gay isn't a choice. Would you rather have your child turn to you if they were to realize they are gay or would you prefer they become a statistic? Gay and Lesbian teens have a three times higher suicide rate and quite a bit of that statistic comes from rejection by family and friends.
While your particular interpretation of the Bible may include homosexuality being "wrong" there are other interpretations that do not. Even if you consider it a "sin" is it any more horrible than any other "sin"? Would you reject your child for lying? It's a "sin" is it not?
While I do understand that many people have "dreams" for their child, I believe that a parent's fondest wish is for their child to be happy. letting your child know that while you may not agree with homosexuality but you love your child and would not reject them may go far in making the dream of your child's happiness a reality.
2006-12-04 06:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Learning metal work in school doesn't produce that many engineers.
Taking art class doesn't make you an artist.
Learning about crime doesn't make you a criminal.
Learning about homosexuality might make you a homosexual? Interesting but somwhat flawed logic.
I'm not religious but as far as I know, there are ten commandments which if you follow to the best of your ability and feel true remorse about any that you break then heaven awaits you. Nothing about being gay in any of them. Plenty about love, respect and honour. Sure there are mentions in the book of it being frowned upon in the same light as masturbation but if we are going to follow it word for word, we have a LOT of adulterers that need stoning.
If my son (or anyone) prefers guys, that's ok. If he works hard, tries hard to get ahead without hurting anyone, feels remorse if he does hurt someone... I'd be proud to be a part of their lives.
2006-12-05 02:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by rolfey18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent but from a teens point of view i think it would be alot better if you told them it was okay to be gay. what if you told them it was bad and shameful and they really were gay? They'd feel horrible... I don't think its right to force the bible or religion on anyone... especially since we live in a society with gay people, everyone has the right to be what they want. The Bible is just someone else's belief of what society should be like.
Hope this helps.
Also there is nothing wrong with being gay! the only thing that says it is bloody religion.
2006-12-04 05:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by kaykay 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I would love my child and hope that she/he had the resources to create a happy life for her/his self. No matter what the bible says..if you have a gay child you have a gay child....does the bible tell you to stop loving them or to spurn them?...the bible won't change a thing. It all depends on whether you want to keep a loving relationship with you child or let the bible dictate that your child is an abomination (at least that's what some people think).
2006-12-04 07:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hard question. Many people believe it is natural. Than again many people don't understand how it could be natural. In all living things human show signs of it most. At what point does someone question if they are gay and think well maybe they are and based on belief they follow that lifestyle. I have also seen many males that were gay but have been through sexual abuse by a male. Is this a factor? I related it to females who have been raped and show signs of being promiscuous. If we look at it being psychological problem we can compare other sexual behavious like men who lust for young children and the psych problems they have. The reason I compare the two is because most sexual inaccuracies are often linked to a deeper problem or experience. I am not saying being gay is but I have no idea so I just compare the facts.
2006-12-04 05:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by Labatt113 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Well, I'm afraid that once your children have gotten the ball rolling, there's no turning back. Anything you say will not disuade them from any choices they may have made. This is not exclusive to homosexuality. It could be anything. If they decide to be gay then that's their choice, and rather than try and "reprogram " them you should always support their decisions. Let them be what they want to be, not what you want them to be. I'd support any decision they may make unconditionally. And I'm not just saying that because I'm gay. If you still have some doubts. Go ask a few straight people this same question and get their feedback.
2006-12-04 05:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by zzap2001 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If they are gay, they will be gay. What you say won't change that, one iota. What you say can make it extremely hard to have them accept themselves, if they are gay.
What the bible says about homosexuality needs to be looked at in the same context as the rest of the things from that book of the bible.
Do you tell your children they will go to hell for eating a cheeseburger, ham, or shrimp? Do you tell them you have the biblical right to sell your children into slavery? Do you tell them that it's adultery to get divorced and remarry? (divorce is sanctioned nowhere in the bible, which means sex with a second spouse is adultery). Do you teach them it's is a sin to approach the alter of the lord if they don't have perfect vision?
If you don't, then why are you picking and choosing what you like and don't like in the bible?
My youngest daughter came home from college last year and told us she was a lesbian. My response was: We love you and we want the best for you. If you are a lesbian, then being who you are will make you happier than trying to be something you are not. Feel free to bring home anyone you wish us to meet. We will welcome anyone she brings home as a partner.
2006-12-04 05:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend that started having homosexual thoughts at the age of 13, he dated girls until he was about 17, then he realized he wanted a man, now that he has a boyfriend he's is the happiest I've ever seen him and everyone knows and still loves him.
He is my best friend.
I think you should allow the child to experiement, because if he/she has these thoughts and you make him/her lead a straight life, then when he/she gets out from under your roof they will experiement, and may do it in an unsafe manor. Let them try it out, just urge the child to use protection in any sexual act. You don't want your kid to come home with an STD from one experimental act.
My friend's parents are extremely open minded and let him do as he pleased, and when he was ready he tryed it out, and was very careful and still is careful. He and his partner are both STD free and frequently get tested (they do this because of all the homophobic people that automatically assume that they have AIDS because they are gay, that way they can show them updated blood test results that show that they are clean people). It's kind of their smart little way of saying "Kiss my @$$" to close minded/crazy people.
2006-12-04 05:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by *♥Mrs. Morrow♥* 2 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I personally wouldn't do anything if my son turned out to be gay. It is not my choice to choose if he loves one sex over the other. You can't help who you fall in love with. For me I wouldn't feel much of a good parent if I judge him about sex. Personally it would not be my business.
As for the bible, I am not a religious person. I don't feel that someone can tell me or anyone who they should be allowed to like. Then whether or not they can attend certain churches because of homosexuality. There is nothing wrong with liking the same sex, just not everyone does. It shouldn't ban them from being the same way that straight people are.
2006-12-04 05:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by mke 2 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Hi Mother of 2,
Thanks for your question. The Bible, beyond everything else, says the most about 2 things: (1) taking care of the poor and the oppressed, and (2) love. It also condemns many actions...some of them you may do every day. Wearing cross-fabrics, taking interest in your savings, doing any work on the Sabbath, not caring for the widows in your neighborhood. And these actions are condemned far more seriously than homosexuality (which is found in the ritual cleanliness section of Leviticus). So the question is - what rules of the Bible apply to us today and are appropriate?
My advice? Bring your children up, deeply loving them and accepting them for who they are. Bring them up knowing Jesus accepted and loved all people from all races, religions, creeds - except those who found themselves too righteous to love others.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 07:11:33 · answer #11 · answered by Joe 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋