i wish things were different between us i miss him soo much weve been fighting over the stupidest things imaginable our problem is we do not talk things out we just do not talk for days/weeks/months i know this is not healthy i am a mess i never felt this way before in my life and as much as it hurts and kills me inside i still love him with all my heart besides this we are a great couple when we do not have an argument i just feel that if he cared as mad as he is he wouldve called or texted me but no long story short he made me cry last sat night and just sat there and didnt even try ro make me feel better i thought it was heartless so when he apologized i said no apology in this world will make the way i felt that night go away and said only a heartless piece of **** would be that way to his gf that was last monday and since then no calls no text no contact i am so00 depressed all i do is think about him and how can he not care or miss me cuz if he did hed make it right wouldnt he???
2006-12-04 05:12:11 · 10 answers · asked by bkgrl718 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I bet you will think twice before you "guilt trip" him again.
Just looked over some of your past questions... This is a common thing between you two isn't it.
2006-12-04 05:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well- to begin with. I know exaxly how you feel..My BF of 3 1/2 years and I broke up in July because we were just arguing alto over the littlelest things. In my situation it was becuase i kept asking about when we were gonna get maried and how everyone else we knew that hooked up when we hooked up was already married and we weren't. Not just his but other little things too. So- we took a 2 month break. IT was the worse!! I couln't stop crying!! it seemed like everything about everything reminded me of him. I know what you're going through but- it will be ok!. You know what? maybe he's sick of argiung with you about the little things and needs a break from all this drama? give him and your self some time so you can think about everything that's been going on. Give yourself about 2 weeks to think and if he doens;t call you within that time it can mean 1 of 2 things. #1- he met someone else and needed to find a reason to get a way from you #2 he's really hurt and needs more time to think and is waiting for an apology from you.
Second of all- I think it's really wrong when couples argue and use cussing words when they are angry. It seems like you loose so much respect of each other when one person cuses at the other. I'm sure he curses at you too but only because you let him and by you cursing back you are telling him that you're ok with him cursing at you to begin with. If you really think and feel that he loves you and that the relationship is worth trying again- call him and apologize about what you told him. By apologizing you're not necesarily begging him to be with you but accepting that you hurt him with your words and that you said those words on the moment of anger. If he's a real man and trully lvoes you he will apologize back and tell you how he feels. I know it's hard because i'm stubborn like that too. I hate having to admit and actually tell someone that i'm sorry and that i screwed up but if you relaly lvoe him and you think he lvoes you and the relationship is worth trying for- do it. If you think he's gonna act immature about it- don't even apologize and jsut wait until he calls you. Guys love it when girls run after them and apologize & stuff. But- if he ignores you calls- don't leave voicemail messages with your apology just wait until he calls you. If more than 2 weeks pass and you have no way of contacting him it means he's found someone else and it's time to move on. This will be the hardest thing you will have to get over because you have so much history with him but- look at it this way- it's a lesson learned and now you know more about relatioships and you're more prepared and know yourself more on what you like and look in men so next time you meet a guy you will be more picky about how you prefer him no matter how gorgeous a guy looks- you will know if that guy is really gonna be good for you or not. Good luck and try this!! Rmember- if tis' worth it- give him another chance people make mistakes we're only human but if he's gonna be a jerk to you- just move on!
2006-12-04 13:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds alot like me and my boyfriend. We actually fight quite a bit and then don't talk or see each another for like a week or two.
The reason he never called me or came to see me is because he doens't like that feeling of feeling rejected. Like if he were to call me and apologize then I would hang up on him or something. So usually it's me who has to calm down and put down my defences and pick up that phone and call him.
Or, in other cases, he's really pissed off at you and needs time to think about him and you. He could be one of those people who can hold a grudge forever. I say call him or go see him and explain all this to him... like why hasn't he called you? He may be waiting on you to make it right.
2006-12-04 13:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Janine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whether this relationship will continue or not, you need to sit down together and have a discussion about where you are going together. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship, so this may not be the one for you. That might hurt, but it might be true.
However, I'm not in your place. Just talk to him, set emotions aside, and figure it out. End it or fix it.
2006-12-04 13:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might feel that no matter what he does is not good enough for you...maybe you are too hard on him and expect too much from him...you not accepting him necessarily for him....and maybe vise versa.....love him for even his mistakes..that is true love. maybe it hurts being the bigger person but tell him how you feel.....communication is a BIG issue in relationships and if its not there, then it will go downhill...it may take a long time and it may not, but definately try to communicate to him how you feel...he may just be frusterated b/c he doens't think he knows how to make you happy....talk to him openly and honestly with and open mind and heart and let him know its okay and you do love him regardless of what happens.......its not all his fault......nor is it yours...
2006-12-04 13:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by College Wifey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you called him a really rotten name, and you think he should be the one to make it right? you should be the one going out of your way to make it right. sure he made you cry, well boohoo.he tried to say that he was sorry but that was not good enough. so, i guess if you really want this guy back then you had better do something to let him know how sorry you are for what you said.
2006-12-04 13:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men men men...when will you learn that we girls fix everything.
When it comes to matters of the heart men are clueless.
look I dont know your history but from what I just read,I'm gonna say the following :" why are you with him if he simply doesnt give a **** if you cry your heart out?"
Our tears are precious,he should be wipping your tears not causing them to fall.
anyway Good luck girl :)
2006-12-04 13:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have this problem in my marriage--when we argue-he shuts down and won't speak to me for days--it is called immaturity. If this pattern in your relationship doesn't change-then you must get out of it. It is a very unhealthy way to live-trust me.
2006-12-04 13:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
why not call him or pop round to see him, maybe he thinks you won't want to see him or he is giving you time to breathe and be by yourself. why not bite your tongue and try to forget about it, if you miss him this much surely its better to forgive and forget. love hurts. x
2006-12-04 13:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by peroxide.pixie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to move on. He sounds to be over you, so you should get over him!
2006-12-04 13:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋