about a yr ago i moved in with my now husband....so his home was set up and decorated already....i didn't have much stuff, but the things i did have he hated and we threw most of it out.....we have totally different taste and since he is the breadwinner he gets to decide how all money is spent.....what can i do to make it feel more like home to me??
2006-12-04 05:00:10 · 5 answers · asked by SNAP! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I thought a marriage was a partnership, not one person being dominated by the other. I maybe wrong but think there are more issues that need to be discussed other than personal tastes here. Have you told your husband how you really feel about the situation,? Do not let him make all the decisions just because he is the breadwinner at the moment. If you can try to get a little job of your own and then he cannot tell you what to do with money you earn. As for making the home feel more homey I don't think you can do this until he accepts that the home is for both of you
2006-12-04 05:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by ann.inspain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"since he is the breadwinner he gets to decide how all money is spent"
Sorry honey that is not a marriage, that is ownership. If he really feels that way, then every month give him a bill for all the services you provide for him, like cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. You get paid by him for helping him run the house. If that does not entitle you to spend some of the money as YOU see fit, then you are not in a marriage. He's a controlling looser.
2006-12-04 13:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the two of you could try to work together and come up with something that both of you like. Why not shop at flea markets , thrift stores and garage and yard sales for great finds to make the place more comfortable for both of oyu and not spend a fortune. You could even recondition some of the things he already has. There are a lot of solutions to this problem.Just work on it as a team.
2006-12-04 14:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by sereta zandrae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not have a job and does he want you to stay that way? If so then it is both of yours. You need to be as comfortable as him there are things will not keep on smoothly. You posting is a sign of this. Need to have a talk and straighten this out specially since you spend more time there. If he controlls all the money and you cannot get a few things for yourself what are you going to do if you cannot get a few dollars to leave if things turn bad? Not wishing bad just letting you know to plan for a way out if need be.
2006-12-04 13:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family pictures and plants you pick out together.
2006-12-04 13:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋