so my son is 8 months old and i have been saying the father is unknown on everything. I don't want to give up his potential fathers name. I'm scared he will come hurt us if he found out about my son. but i recieve help from the state for my daycare and they have said they will end my daycare assistance unless I give them the name and whereabouts of the father. i don't even know where he is right now. are there any laws protecting us from this in wa state?
2006-12-04 04:57:57 · 7 answers · asked by thenoodle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are recieving state assistance they can in fact discontinue your assistance if you do not give them the father's identity. Why? Because parents have a responsibility to take care of their children, not the State. If the father has insurance or should be paying child support then he needs to do so in the State's eyes. That saves your State money for those things.
If you give up his name, the State can bring an action for child support and probably to estblish paternity. If you absolutly must have that assistance, then you ought to go ahead and let them do that b/c if he has a violent past or something then he might not even get visitation. Also--if you go ahead and establish paternity and the father dies somewhere down the road your child will be entitled to Social Security.
If you can find a way to pay for daycare and you do worry about safety, then get off the state program b/c it's not worth it. But only you know that.
You probably ought to call a family law attorney in your area for a free consultation.
2006-12-04 05:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why this is happening is because there are laws protecting the taxpayers of your state whose hard-earned dollars are being spent on keeping you and your offspring alive. If you are on any type of government assistance, child support is not negotiable. The state will pursue your child's father for child support to be reimbursed for the money you're receiving. Why would you want to be on the public tit while letting the guy who's half responsible for putting this child here gets off free? As for being scared of him, YOU chose to breed with him. Put on your big girl panties and learn to deal with the consequences of your actions. You have two choices: Either comply with the authorities, give them his name, get a lawyer, go to court and get custody established. Or withdraw from receiving public assistance and prepare to raise your child on your own, with no financial help from anyone.
2014-12-20 11:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they are wanting to know his name and where he is because they are wanting him to pay child support...... If you are that scared tell your case worker and they will help you figure out what to do... If they will do nothing get in touch with a lawyer and see what they can say and do for you hun.... Is he stated on the birth certificate? if not they have no reason to know who the father is.. hope you get the help you need hun
2006-12-04 05:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need better answers that you'll get here. There are laws protecting you because assault is a crime. BUT people are assaulted all the time and you need some expert advice. Here's a phone number that may be able to help: 1-800-799-SAFE
2006-12-04 05:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed this question was 8 years ago. What ended up happening in your situation?
2014-10-15 01:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sleepy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scared because you are keeping the fact he has a child? if so, you are a troubled person, and shouldn't be allowed to raise this child. I actually need more info before giving you any advice
2006-12-04 05:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
see a laywer
2006-12-04 04:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by jack of all trades 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋