I cheated on my man, a year ago, but I told him about it, now I find out that he has been doing drugs during our 10 yrs together.We both agree that we love eachother, but this is really putting a strain on our relationship. in one of our arguements be blurted out he should have left me a long time ago? I want to know is it wise to let him go instead.
2006-12-04 04:39:31 · 9 answers · asked by northeastcoast_butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this is a relationship you want to hold onto, call a counselor immediately. If you two still love eachother, there is still a chance... Things will have to change, though. Secrets can destroy a relationship faster than anything else, and you both seem to keep a lot inside. Set a time frame (in a journal or something, don't tell him the day) that you expect to see changes take place. If your marriage isn't getting any better, then call it off. If you aren't willing to work at it to make each other happier, then find someone who will. But try first, or you will always wonder if it would have worked... Good luck!! ♥
2006-12-04 04:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think you should get some counseling together; not only for your relationship, but for his drug problem. There is no stigma involved when asking for help and only good can come of it. If it turns out that you do not stay together (even though that seems terrible and difficult at the time), you will find the good in it one day. But I hope that it does the trick for you and you both live happily ever after.
2006-12-04 04:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Tina R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a sexual affair is a even comparison to drug use. Beside it does not help bringing unrelated flaws into the argument. Have you loved him for the last 10 years? Keep in mind you loved him all during his drug use, the only differnece is you now know.
2006-12-04 05:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by James J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People say things in arguments sometimes that they don't really mean, but that is irrelevant in this case...... You are involved with someone who is using drugs and who has been lying to you for 10 years.... You seem to be concerned with should he leave you???? I think your concern would be more about his drug abuse and whether or not you should leave him...... That's some really serious stuff.....
2006-12-04 04:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by favrd1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't use his drug use as an excuse of your cheating. Drugs are things. Cheating is with a person, intimate and interfering.
2006-12-04 04:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by terry M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seem there are alot of secrets and issues, either handle them together and get healthy together or move on
2006-12-04 04:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling
2006-12-04 04:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probablly, or just take some time apart and see if that is the best thing for you both.
2006-12-04 04:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling, you both need help.
2006-12-04 04:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋