I cheated on my man, a year ago, but I told him about it, now I find out that he has been doing drugs during our 10 yrs together.We both agree that we love eachother, but this is really putting a strain on our relationship. in one of our arguements be bkurted out he should have left me a long time ago? I want to know is it wise to let him go instead.
2006-12-04 04:37:42 · 14 answers · asked by northeastcoast_butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave him that is ridiculous that he said that
2006-12-04 04:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy ace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cheated on him and he's been doing drugs without your knowledge. Weighing the two, cheating is worse. I could not blame him if after you both came to terms about what's happened he bolted.
It's always a good idea to not cheat in the first place. Telling up front what you are feeling usually can prevent a mess like this.
2006-12-04 13:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lot of resentment. As you no doubt have recently seen in the news with Micheal Richard, Mel Gibson, people tend to show their true feelings when the are truly upset and in a passionate argument.
Sounds as though he wanted to end this awhile ago, maybe you should do both of you the favor.
2006-12-04 12:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he can use your affair as ammunition against you and continually try to emotionally manipulate you with that..Also sounds like you found out he was using drugs at the perfect time! Let him go before it is toooo late..Drugs are a bad deal, especially for the sober mate...
2006-12-04 12:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by soberlunatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ye have been lying to each other all this time what have ye really got? and if you did not notise he was doing drugs are ye really connected and could you ever trust him again
on the other note when he said he shoukd have left you he is obviously feeling really left down you should tell him how you really feel about him.
Things certainly need to get sorted one way or the other
best of luck
2006-12-04 12:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by aoife k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of a good relationship, is telling each other about yourself. Obviously, he decided to leave out the part of him that includes drugs. You obviously felt a reason to cheat on him.
So, maybe it is wise to atleast take a break from each other, to see how you truly feel.
2006-12-04 12:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If both of you can't deal with your problems then get special help.It's surprising that you need knew he was into drugs for the past 10yrs.I guess neither of you is serious about your relationship.Help him deal with his drug issue and think of what to do next.
2006-12-04 12:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Phy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a point of view of never tied anyone to ourselves, I know it hurts to let someone we are attached to go away.
Maybe a serious talk can reach to a conclusion.
2006-12-04 12:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Underwater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to save the marriage, he needs to go into rehab. If the marriage is beyond saving, file for divorce and end it.
2006-12-04 12:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you two have some problems to work on it, but still i think it is important to try to get over it working together because that's good couple do.
2006-12-04 12:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by alicia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you told your husband, that doesn't mean that you are better then him. You both need help.
2006-12-04 12:42:46 · answer #11 · answered by Morena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋